When you do what another person wants you to do from love and caring, with no agenda to get their approval, you feel wonderful. But when you give yourself up from fear of your partner’s anger or withdrawal, you will feel trapped and resentful.
My biggest fear was that I would be missing out on something better by committing to one thing. I came to the realization that there will always be someone or something better for me and better than me.
If you have a checklist longer than your list of errands you’ve said “you’ll get to tomorrow” since ’09, you may need to reevaluate your situation.
Don’t be delusional and fool yourself into thinking that he had commitment problems. He just didn’t like you enough to commit to you.
You aren’t capable of convincing people that they’re wrong, and you shouldn’t even try. And that’s not because he’s not worth fighting for; it’s because you shouldn’t have to convince anyone that you’re valuable.
I wish you’d met me then, back when I was happier or younger, or Hell, I don’t know. Just different. Back when I accepted love instead of pushing it away.
“My older sister telling me that this was the first relationship she had ever seen me in that was functional, healthy, and GOOD. And that if I tried to walk away, that I was a fool. The word ‘fool’ is what got to me.”
Sometimes the clichéd line, “It’s not you; it’s me” – is entirely true. It’s not you. It’s him.
For the most part though, I think “commitment issues” are bullshit. In every sense of the phrase, when it comes to relationships.
You’re not heartless. You’re human. It’s natural for you to have feelings, and it’s dangerous for you to run from them.