If you have a checklist longer than your list of errands you’ve said “you’ll get to tomorrow” since ’09, you may need to reevaluate your situation.
Don’t be delusional and fool yourself into thinking that he had commitment problems. He just didn’t like you enough to commit to you.
You aren’t capable of convincing people that they’re wrong, and you shouldn’t even try. And that’s not because he’s not worth fighting for; it’s because you shouldn’t have to convince anyone that you’re valuable.
I wish you’d met me then, back when I was happier or younger, or Hell, I don’t know. Just different. Back when I accepted love instead of pushing it away.
“My older sister telling me that this was the first relationship she had ever seen me in that was functional, healthy, and GOOD. And that if I tried to walk away, that I was a fool. The word ‘fool’ is what got to me.”
Sometimes the clichéd line, “It’s not you; it’s me” – is entirely true. It’s not you. It’s him.
For the most part though, I think “commitment issues” are bullshit. In every sense of the phrase, when it comes to relationships.
You’re not heartless. You’re human. It’s natural for you to have feelings, and it’s dangerous for you to run from them.
It’s swearing up and down to yourself that it will be different this time around, that you will get your shit together, that you will not ruin yet another good thing in your life because you can’t hold onto anything if your life depended on it.
You and I are not “options.” We are people.