We’ve exchanged “I love yous” for likes on selfies, flowers for dick pics, “good morning” texts for morning walks of shame, dates for “Netflix and chill.” There’s no more effort, no more spark.
Everything in life has a purpose and everything that happens teaches us a lesson, right? By the time we reach our mid-20s we’ve learned about 98% of these lessons and there will only be dozens more each year. Maybe the lesson was different for you, but the moment is the same for us all.
These are things that men used to do in past eras—behaviors that I wish the men of my generation would adopt today.
What really did happen to chivalry — to all those acts of sweet loyalty and bravery done by men for the girl that he adored?
Depending on the day, we each find words like “exclusive” or “dating” to mean different things, and it is getting exhausting. Between being asked what my deal-breakers are, or what I “look for” in a guy, it has all become a bit much.
There is a joke that comes up a lot in dating: when the man buys an expensive dinner, the woman has to put out.
Walking you home even if it’s inconvenient or out of the way. It’s dangerous to walk home alone, or even because those few extra minutes with you for extra conversation time to learn about your day would mean the world to him.
It seems we’re perpetually trying to answer this question: Is chivalry truly dead? And if not, should it be?
As men, we are the pursuers, both naturally and societally.
According to the gospel—aka Destiny’s Child circa 1999 — if you’re an independent woman, you pay your own fun and you pay your own bills, because it’s always 50/50 in relationships.