It is vitally important to find healthy ways of releasing the outrage, heartbreak and helplessness.
We of course hate to take pleasure in someone else’s pain.
Oh, that feeling you have there? That’s called guilt. Explore it, examine it, understand it. Don’t justify it.
“Honestly? I don’t know. I guess I had low self esteem. I wanted to feel needed. I wanted to feel sexy. But, damn. I messed up a wonderful and beautiful relationship. And I hate myself for that.”
I am unashamed to say that I actually want a solid relationship, but meeting countless guys like this just makes me think twice about wanting a relationship.
He is not good enough for you. He is not for you. Most of all, he does not deserve you.
I drove home, then called Mark. When he answered I simply said, “Let me talk to her.” About a minute later she got on the phone. I asked her if she had anything to say to me, and she was silent. I asked her if she loved Mark, and she said she didn’t know.
You didn’t ask for this, but you still have to deal with it. And that’s life.
Real love is transparent. It isn’t fueled by lies, manipulation or dishonesty. It isn’t found in infidelity.
“Rings don’t plug holes.”