We make snap judgments on people and throw them into demographics. Being labelled straight protected me from prejudice, encouraging me to conform to it. I locked myself in a closet full of dresses.
That’s the other thing about passing. People feel like they’re safe to be homophobes in front of you.
Did you know one half of Nina Sky is a lesbian? Or that P!nk did a song about lesbian sex with Peaches? Or that Tracy Chapman has never officially come out? Fun facts!
Sophomore year of college at Oberlin, I went through an androgynous/sexually-experimental phase wherein my friends helped me buzz off all of my hair, starting with the ponytail.
I’m where I’m meant to be now, but I hate that I believed I had to present myself differently in order for others to believe that I’m queer. I hate that dressing girly now makes me invisible to the lesbian community. What I hate most of all, however, is that even if I make it a known fact that I am into women, I am still doubted and distrusted by everyone.