Thought Catalog


We make snap judgments on people and throw them into demographics. Being labelled straight protected me from prejudice, encouraging me to conform to it. I locked myself in a closet full of dresses.

Did you know one half of Nina Sky is a lesbian? Or that P!nk did a song about lesbian sex with Peaches? Or that Tracy Chapman has never officially come out? Fun facts!

I’m where I’m meant to be now, but I hate that I believed I had to present myself differently in order for others to believe that I’m queer. I hate that dressing girly now makes me invisible to the lesbian community. What I hate most of all, however, is that even if I make it a known fact that I am into women, I am still doubted and distrusted by everyone.