1. Where is the idiot?
If you’re blaming past relationships for your emotional baggage, don’t, because the time spent on a failed relationship was not time wasted.
“You deserve so much better,” they said, “and he’s really not worth it.” To which my invariable response was, “But I still love him.”
My realist brain told me if I was not going to marry you, why were we trying to stay together? Why date at all if you do not see a future? My realist brain tried to make sense of the mess we had gotten ourselves into.
Just why is your new ex suddenly friends with your old ex?
We’ve all been there and regretted it. Don’t message them back. Got it?
Maybe, deep down he knows. But, he thinks you’re worth fighting for. When you finally leave, it will ruin him. You did this.
You’re still trying to pinpoint what went wrong. What did go wrong? Your brakes weren’t faulty and everything was working fine.
At first, you will try to rekindle the dying embers, piece the relationship back together, and save it from going completely downhill. You will convince yourself that what you have with them is worth fighting and staying for.
I feel jealous whenever my friends run into you around town — always wishing I was there to see how you are, hoping you’ll realize that you’re over me. I miss us as friends.