When you have no contact with your ex, you have far more control over your mood and it gives you that emotional distance that you absolutely need in order to get over the relationship. If you keep maintaining unnecessary contact, time won’t make you feel any better, it will just prolong the entire process.
They say the first step in recovery is admitting you have a problem. When it comes to people, I like to think that the first step is admitting that you’re not okay.
He didn’t decide to leave me because he wanted me to grow or be a better person, he did it because he didn’t want me anymore. He never bothered explaining because he just didn’t care anymore. It is that simple.
I don’t think our fight was even a fight. Just covert looks under hooded eyes. If anything it was an unfight. The room was thick with words unsaid.
And not only will you never know, you will never understand, which are two very different concepts.
It’s wrong, I know, to do things that make me feel closer to you. I know that temporary relief from the pain of your absence does me no good. But neither does missing you so much I can’t think.
Thank you for being my home, my comfort zone, and my best friend. I miss that a lot.
Reconnect with people you haven’t seen in a while. Catch up with family. Plan dinners. Call back old co-workers. Send thoughtful, long emails to old friends you’ve lost touch with.
You’d better believe there are artists, albums, playlists, that I can no longer listen to. Songs we earmarked for the first dance at our wedding, others that were playing in coffee shops or nightclubs where we shared nervous touches and first intimacies.
I’m not as bitter as I may sound. Every time you text me, I’ll respond. Every time you ask if I want to come over, I will. Not because I’m naïve, or oblivious to your game. I’ll be right here every time until I don’t want to anymore.