How do we learn to trust and to learn and to love other people when the people that promised us forever went away?
We fret over the smallest of things. We overthink until we feel like our heads will explode. We think and think and think. It never turns off. It never disappears. It never slows or quiets down. It never stops, no matter how happy we are and no matter how in love we are with our lives or other people.
Never stop wanting to know more about them, because they’ll never stop wanting to know about you.
But, your friends can only take so much. And, if you do what I did, you’re almost certainly going to annoy the fuck out of them.
You ruin a perfectly good relationship by not giving anything back to your partner when they desperately need your compassion. By not lending them ears when they are having a hard time. By not lending them your shoulder to cry on when they are depressed or anxious or blue. You ruin a perfectly good relationship by not caring about what they need and want.
I think I’m starting to understand the benefits of heartbreak. It humbles you. It makes you realize that no matter who you are and what you do, you’re still not for everyone and not everyone will admire you the way you think they will.
I would rather be the person who said too much than the one who didn’t say anything at all. I would rather be the person who has a hard time letting go of people.
1. You’re not happy. You’re always crying. You’re feeling down all the time and it’s affecting your well-being, your productivity, your energy and your mood. 2. Your contact is diminishing.
You need someone who is willing to put you first in their mind, and do whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. Making you smile brings joy to their lives, and overall makes for a healthy relationship.