To quote a line from the movie, A Light Between Oceans, ‘You only have to forgive once. To resent you have to do it all day, every day, all of the time. You have to keep remembering the bad things. It’s too much work.’
Forgiveness is a powerful act of self love that can have ripple effects far beyond just saying ‘I’m sorry’ or ‘I forgive you’.
When you forgive another person, a situation and even yourself, you release the emotions behind whatever you may have been holding onto.
Those emotion(s) may be anger, guilt, resentment, sadness, shame and jealousy (to name a few) all of which are considered low vibrating emotions. To cling to these emotions and not uproot them from within yourself can only cause lingering amounts of pain and resentment.
What happens when these emotions get stored in your body year after year without being released? They will unveil themselves to you in a new form such as physical pain and/or dis-ease. And then you are left wondering why you all of a sudden have chronic neck pain that just won’t seem to go away.
Please know you are not condoning the actions of someone or a situation if you feel they may have caused you suffering, rather you are freeing yourself of holding onto something that happened in the past.
That particular person does not need to know you forgave them, meaning, you do not have to do this face to face. This is something you can do privately between you and what you may call the Higher Power (God, Buddha, Source, etc).
There are many ways to forgive and release. It can be done by stating forgiveness sentences out loud, by praying, journaling or whatever else might work for you. There is no right or wrong way to do this. To forgive is to let go and that in of itself is beautiful.