Well, folks, it is finally time to talk about one of my favorite things – The Law of Attraction. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, The Law of Attraction is a theory that like attracts like. This means that if you are constantly talking about how much your life sucks, work sucks, and money is tight, guess what you are going to notice more of? Life sucking more in general, more tiffs with your boss, and financial fiascos. Netflix has a great documentary called The Secret that explains this theory in much more detail, and also talks about how people can become more successful with their endeavors by positivity.
The phrase ‘Why does this always happen to me?’ is similar to attracting negative energy, however with a twist. You see, the simple answer is that whatever this is, is only present in your everyday life because you allow it to be. For example, with relationships. You are persistently complaining and wondering why these jerks are coming into your life, one after another. I don’t want to have to be the messenger, but it is because you are letting them come into your life, walk all over you, and stomp out just as harshly.
On the other hand, you have to understand that putting the blame on yourself will only further the negativity brought up by the situation. Instead of getting down and blaming yourself for the drama in your life, do something about it! Sulking will not get you anywhere, and more jerks will thrive off of that insecurity and hurt that you are displaying to the universe. The absolute only way that you will ever get out of this dilemma is by stepping out, and standing up for yourself. You deserve so much better than jerks who ruin your day time and time again. I’m not talking solely relationships…I’m talking about work, school, clubs, hobbies, grocery stores. You name it, you change it.
If this is not completely making sense to you, or you do not agree with my advice and reasoning, think about the following long and hard. I have never in my entire life heard someone say ‘Why does this always happen to me?’ when something positive happens. But why not? We, as a society, need to begin praising ourselves for our hard work and effort, instead of tearing ourselves down for our mistakes. If a coworker keeps complimenting your eloquent speaking skills, your first reaction isn’t to go ‘UGH this always happens to me!’ With this in mind, not only are we unable to acknowledge our successes and positive traits, but we are putting the main focus on our downfalls. This, of course, results in the ongoing pattern of attracting negativity into our life.
I want to be very clear here, however. I am by no means saying to ignore those blatantly obvious negatives in your life. If you lose your job, get in a car crash, stuck in traffic during an important meeting, etc., you deserve time to be mad or upset, but do not allow yourself to be the host of your very own pity party. Ignoring the problems or setbacks will only further frustrate you, causing an emotional and mental ticking time bomb. So, instead of jumping to either extreme, accept the negativity, brainstorm a possible and realistic solution if there is one, follow through with the plan, and move the hell on. I know, I know. Shelby, this is a whole lot easier said than done. I get it – in fact, I’ve been in that same exact position. I would be lying if I said it was easy and positive thinking worked perfectly the very first time I attempted it. That being said, I would also be lying if I said it did not significantly change my life once I got the hang of it.
It is an extremely difficult process, but I promise you all that it gets better and easier. Soon enough, the constant positive outlook will radiate from your soul, and attract similar things, people, and events. Below, I have compiled a few inspiring quotes for you all to empower you on your journey in positivity!
‘To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.’ – Richard Bach
‘We become what we think about…Energy goes where the attention flows.’ – Rhoda Byrne
‘When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say WHY ME, say TRY ME!’ – Unknown
‘You cannot solve our problems using the same thinking you used when you created them.’ – Albert Einstein
‘Some people will always throw stones in your path. It depends on you what you make with them, wall or bridge? Remember that you are the architect of your own life.’ – Unknown