They may romanticize the relationship and re-idealize you, taking back all their hurtful words and actions in one fell swoop (or cleverly constructed text message).
I am the truth, your karma, the revolt — I am the resistance, the pieces you tried to keep shattered, coming back together again.
Survivors have to regain the certainty that the reason they experienced such a pathological reaction was because they were so powerful in the first place.
You don’t have to justify to anyone the reasons you didn’t leave right away.
Falsehoods about parents always being loving and having our best interests at heart simply do not cut it when it comes to manipulative, toxic and abusive parents.
It’s important to shed light on spiritual frameworks that may hinder or impede a survivor’s journey to authentic healing and can perpetuate a larger victim-shaming discourse in society.
The abuse cycle relies on hot and cold, mean and sweet behavior, which means nice actions after an abusive incident cannot be taken at face value, but rather as embedded in a chronic pattern of behavior.
Leaving was not easy but it was also too easy
Read this when your heart is aching and your spirit is broken, when you’re on your knees, depleted and defeated.
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.