Dump someone if they treat you like crap. They don’t have to be overtly cruel and pulling a Chris Brown on you. If you didn’t already know, there are a myriad of ways you can treat someone terribly. Your BF/GF might be doing it more on the DL. Since it’s more subtle, their rudeness is hard to pinpoint and bring to their attention. The thing is that no one should ever be making you feel bad about yourself, especially the person who’s supposed to be loving you the most. “Hi. I got into a relationship so I could be loved MORE, not less. If I wanted to be treated badly, I would go back to my best friend in junior high.”
Dump someone if it feels like a lot of work, if it feels like you should be getting paid for babysitting whenever you’re together or if you feel like your best is never good enough. You’re probably with someone who has violent insecurities. No matter what you do, they’ll nitpick everything and put you under a microscope. Get out while you still can because those kinds of relationships can get real dark, real quick.
Dump someone if they’ve cheated on you more than once. Some would argue that you should dump someone the first time they cheat, but I’m not so unforgiving. Stuff happens and people make mistakes. Emotional cheating feels more serious than a regrettable drunken make out session. That being said, if they do it again, you should probably send them packing. There’s obviously something lacking in the relationship or they’re just insensitive jerks who can’t keep their hands off of other people. Either way, it’s no good.
Dump someone if you find yourself getting annoyed at every single thing they do. Every kiss, every sweet smile causes your body to recoil and run away screaming. Um, yeah, that’s not good. That means you’re falling out of love with someone and having immense guilt about it. Save them the heartache and just kill it before you start screaming at them when they go in for a hug. It’s the humane thing to do.
Dump someone who won’t go down on you. You can picky about who you do it to but if you’re in a relationship, it’s part of the job.
Dump someone who has no goals or aspirations. You won’t care at 23 but slowly, the resentments will build and you’ll discover that your love DOES cost a thing. This doesn’t mean they have to be making a ton of money. They just have to be passionate about something besides you.
Dump someone who you know will never love you as much as you love them. It’s hard but it’s something that will save you a lot of grief and heartache in the end. All you’ll be able to focus on is their body shifting away from yours in bed, or letting go of your hand during a movie. You’ll feel rejection at every corner and try to find ways to get them to love you more. Nothing will work. You deserve a relationship with less inequity. Living a relationship in perpetual fear and worry is like being pricked with a needle all day long.