You Don’t Always Need To Be So Strong

More often than not, we are told to be strong. Be it for yourself, or for the loved ones whom truly and genuinely care for you.

“It is okay to feel sad and be alone sometimes. Acknowledging sadness is a display of strong will and perseverance. We are only humans, we are made to feel.”

The idea of being emotionally strong or strong-willed you may say, often masks the true severity of concealing your emotions – the unspoken process that one undoubtedly needs to undergo in order to feel complete again.

As humans, we are made to feel every emotion that we possibly know and experience.

We feel overjoyed over every piece of good news that greeted us, we feel scared when we are thrown into a seemingly unfamiliar space, and we feel hurt upon the loss of our loved ones.

In all the above mentioned examples, lies an implicit process that one has to undertake before coming to terms with his emotions.

Similar to the “5 Stages of Loss and Grief,” the process of acknowledging the existence of your emotion is universal and is experienced by people from all walks of life.

Every individual devotes different durations of time working through each step and expresses each stage with different levels of intensity.

The stages in the process do not necessarily follow any pre-determined order yet we often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance with the emotions.

Yet, we often masked this unspoken process by putting a brave front in front our loved ones – As the saying goes, “Life must goes on…”

By suppressing our emotions with denial and isolation, we failed to recognize the existence of the emotion.

We have had forgotten the right to feel sad. We have grown to become numb. We have allowed ourselves to be ridded of the capacity to feel anything ever again.

We may seem to be emptied of sorrow, but we will never be at peace.

We cannot pretend that it is simple to forget, easy to believe nothing happened.

In this process, we are enveloped in detachment, and absence of feeling so deep the bottom was lost from view.

We become so numb without a soul; our spirits sleeping somewhere cold.

“Thaw your permafrost heart, and accept the existence of your emotions. It is okay to feel sad and be alone sometimes. Acknowledging sadness is a display of strong will and perseverance. We are only humans, we are made to feel.”

Thus, here is a reminder to everyone who has forgotten to feel again.