In The Aftermath Of A Toxic Relationship

Do Not Let Your Loneliness Convince You To Settle For Less Than You Deserve

Do not let your loneliness convince you to date someone who’s not going to make you happy or someone you don’t really love. Do not let loneliness make you compromise your heart or the kind of love you always wished for.

Do not let your loneliness make you question yourself, your looks, your life or your priorities. Do not let your loneliness make you think that there’s something wrong with you. Do not let your loneliness be the reason you give up on yourself or hate the world.

Let your loneliness serve as a transition, as solitude, as some time alone you need so you can maybe know yourself better or resolve your childhood issues or maybe it’s there to serve as a reminder that your own company is not too bad, it’s not too much. Your own company is enough.

Do not let your loneliness convince you that you’ll always be alone, that this will always be your life. Don’t let it convince you that you have to change or settle so you can get out of it. Do not let your loneliness drive you into a dangerous territory — one that makes you believe that you have to be like everyone else or change your values or change your heart so you can fit it, so you can have dates every weekend, so you can have plus ones to dinner parties and birthdays.

Do not let your loneliness make you satisfied with dissatisfaction.

Do not let your loneliness be the reason behind your misery. Let it empower you to become someone you never thought you’d be. Someone who stands alone, someone who doesn’t need validation, someone who doesn’t need noise. Let it empower to be someone who knows how to fight alone and someone who knows how to survive.  Let it be your shield and your armor in those cold and dark nights when most people do not know what to do or who to run to, but you’re not scared because you have yourself and you know you can count on it.

Do not let your loneliness convince you to settle for a lover that doesn’t ignite your flames or friends who do not love you wholeheartedly or colleagues who don’t think you’re brilliant. Do not let your loneliness make you spend time with people who make you feel even lonelier.

Do not let your loneliness make you search for something other than yourself. Let your loneliness be your guide, your divine spirit, your guardian angel. Let your loneliness be the reason you’re living not the reason you’re dying. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.

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Writing makes me feel alive. Words heal me.

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