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May 15, 2017

Read This If You’re An Independent Person Who Doesn’t Want To Settle In Love

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What is the issue?
You understand that love takes work, it takes effort, commitment, time, and compromise, and that’s why you’re holding out for the love that will be worth it.
Larisa Birta

You’re picky. Maybe you’re really picky.

There’s nothing wrong with that. There’s courage in learning to be alone while waiting for the right person. There’s a strong sense of self-worth in sticking to your values, and standing up for what you really deserve. There’s independence in your self-reliance. There’s a strong mind behind your refusal to succumb to the pressure to be in a relationship for the sake of it.

You haven’t found somebody to love yet.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Most people are in co-dependent relationships where they try and fail to find themselves in their partners. Most people mess each other up, and spend years trying to undo the damage. Most people waste too much time with the wrong person, while they could be using that time towards developing their potential.

Love is not the most important thing in your life.

There’s nothing wrong with that. People often expect too much from love, and that’s why they’re always disappointed. They make love responsible for their entire happiness. Love is the main motivating reason they do anything in life, because they think that love can save them. They have no real purpose or passion, nothing that sets them on fire, and nothing that adds substantial value to the world.

You’re waiting for extraordinary love.

There’s nothing wrong with that. You’re waiting for the mind-blowing, soul-touching kind of love. You’re waiting for the person who can contribute to the life you worked so hard to build. You’ve been through so much on your own, you’re waiting for someone who has something worthwhile to offer. You’re waiting for the rare, real and resilient kind of love that can survive storms.

You’re not entitled or naïve or ignorant.

You understand that love takes work, it takes effort, commitment, time, and compromise, and that’s why you’re holding out for the love that will be worth it. You don’t need someone who is just an accessory for societal approval, you don’t need love even if you do want it. You know that when you find love, you’ll give it everything you have to offer. That’s why you’re not settling until you find the love that you know will last a lifetime. There’s nothing wrong with that. TC mark