6. Anonymous
Love.
I’ve had a similar experience like Rohit Nair where after over 4 years of courting, someone whom I banked on the most left me. That too a couple of days after my dad passed away, a point when I needed the most support. And it hit me really hard and kept me in thought loop for years (honestly bits and pieces of it is still in my mind), because I could not find a reason why she left me. I believed I was the perfect man for her, and nobody else could care for her like I could (Which is most probably wrong). I kept asking her, “I just want to remove this loop from my mind, tell me the reason why you rejected me”. I didn’t get a convincing answer, but over the time I realized, I had a lot of flaws, and maybe those were the things she saw in me as our relationship progressed.
That stopped my loop. I was free from that rejection.Interview
I was among the top 3 students in my batch when I was in college. So obviously I carried a big ego. And in every campus interview I was a part of, I took it for granted that I would get the jobs. Just for the high having job offer letters, I took part in many of them. Won jobs from top companies. Then, once I had a campus job interview with a not-so-famous company. I was interviewed by a veteran interviewer. I was already on a high when I entered the interview oozing with confidence (overconfidence) and he probably didn’t like it. Though I answered every question he asked me, at the end I got rejected. The whole world came down crashing on me, I couldn’t find a reason why (at that point). But later when I realized what I had done, I was free from rejection.People
Years later, I toned down and started to believe in humility, but still believed and expected people to behave in a certain way to me, “since” I always tried to be nice with them. But many times I got rejected. Every time it stuck in my mind and kept depressing me, since I couldn’t find the reason why were they being like that to me. Then I came across this:Don’t expect the world to treat you fairly just because you’re a good person. it’s kinda like expecting a lion not to attack you because you’re a vegetarian.
I realized 3 things.
- You feel depressed after rejection when you believe it was unfair, you didn’t deserve to be rejected.
- You have too much ego/self belief that you can’t fail.
- People can be erratic in making judgement At times even though you deserved better, but probably they couldn’t realize that. Just forgive them, and move on.