20 Men And Women On How They Really Feel About Their Partner’s Family

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1. THIS FEELS LIKE HELL

“I am suffocating in my husband’s world. I moved to his town in the boonies where I had no other friends except my husband….His mother [is] running around trying to be involved in our every move. The woman is as maternal as they come and because of this she is dependent on others needing her. In the process of being needed she has clipped my husband’s wings his entire life….This feels like hell.”

2. MY MOTHER-IN-LAW LET MY SON DROWN TO DEATH

“I’m 46 years old, married for 23 years. We have a son (20), a girl (12)—and our two-year-old son Tom died 14 years ago, in a drowning accident in our neighbor’s garden pond. My wife Jenny worked part-time and on that day she picked her mother up to take her round to our house to look after Tom. Next thing she knew, the neighbors contacted her, telling her Tom had had an accident. To cut it short, we went to the hospital but he died the next day. All we were told by my mother-in-law was that they were sitting on the front step (so she could smoke) and he was only missing for a minute. It was a neighbor who found him—and said they’d spent quite a while looking for him before he was found. We discovered later that he’d been in the water a long time.”

3. MY FATHER-IN-LAW IS A VERY CREEPY GUY WHO IS INTO YOUNG BOYS

“My father-in-law is a very creepy guy who is into young boys. Literally he lost his position in the church for molesting a young man in his ward. My mother-in-law is in denial of the fact that her husband is not attracted to her or females, for that matter….She is also a gossiping, childlike woman who says and acts in inappropriate ways for shock value….This is a horrible thought, but sometimes I hope for one or preferably both to get an illness of some sort like terminal cancer so they are no longer in our lives.”

4. MY IN-LAWS ARE JUST ABOUT THE DUMBEST FUCKTARDS THAT EVER WERE

“My in-laws are just about the dumbest fucktards that ever were. My father-in-law is a fucking moron. He has a master’s degree in education but refuses to work. My mother-in-law has an associate’s degree in communications and does not work. There is nothing physically or mentally wrong with them. They just do not want to work. Why does this matter to me, you ask? Because my husband and I are temporarily living with them while our house is being repaired from a tornado last month. Sure, they were nice enough to let us stay with them, but the DAY we moved in his mom quit her job. WHY?!?! I don’t know. His dad has not worked in 3 years. I mean they have absolutely NO income and they expect us to pay their house payment, car insurance, groceries for 6 people in one house, and the utilities, not to mention our own bills.”

5. SHE’S ALWAYS IN THE PICTURE

“My wife and I have been married for 8 years now and have two beautiful children together. We are a happy family when my mother-in-law is not in the picture. My problem is that she’s ALWAYS in the picture.”

6. I CRY DAILY

“Over the years I have always felt left out and talked about. They look down on me and criticize everything I do, the way I bring up my children is not good enough, where I holiday is not good enough, they want to run my life. They also make no effort with any of my family, it’s like they just tolerate us. I’m left feeling I have no backup from husband, disrespected, betrayed. It gets to the point where I just want to divorce him over this as it’s clear that he puts his blood family before his wife and children. It’s so painful to realize this. They have won, they have destroyed me, I cry daily, I feel rejected, not good enough and unloved.”

7. I WISH I COULD TOLERATE HER

“[My sister-in-law] makes Narcissus look humble. Every. Single. Thing. She does or thinks or waxes poetic about is posted for mass consumption with tranquil, artful filters. There are professional photo shoots for everything (an expense I know my brother can’t afford). She often posts about people in general being addicted to social media to the detriment of their children, yet posts about three to five times a day.…Everything is all about her….I’m just disgusted by her ‘me, me, me, it’s all about me’ mentality that seems to be getting so much more prevalent in this age of social media, likes and followers. I wish I could like her. Hell, I wish I could tolerate her.”

8. MY MOTHER-IN-LAW IS THE WORST

“I don’t get along with most of my in-laws, but my mother-in-law is the worst. The woman has never liked me and has publicly bashed me many times. She doesn’t think I’m good enough for her son and doesn’t think anyone is good enough. Anyway I overlooked her behavior in the past, and moved on but now that I have a baby I can’t take this woman’s crap anymore. She undermines me as a parent, gets pissed when I hold my child around her, gives me dirty looks, makes rude comments about me, and is downright nasty to me when my husband (her son) isn’t in the room.”

9. MY HUSBAND NEVER STOOD UP FOR ME

“Hi—from the outset of my long (18 year) relationship with my husband (I have been married for 13) I have been relentlessly put down and bullied by my parents in law. This has ranged from making derogatory comments about my hair and my weight (I am slim) accusing me of being anorexic to saying that I am cold and emotionless….My husband turned a blind eye and deaf ear to it for years and never stood up for me. This left me resentful towards him and we have argued so many times about him not supporting me….I am close to walking away from my marriage with such little support.”

10. I HATE MY IN-LAWS SO BAD

“I hate my in-laws so bad. I have never hated anyone like this before—ever. In fact it’s not in my nature to hate, but these people drive me to it. They can’t joke about anything. They expect respect but wont give respect. They are misers…you are ‘allowed’ to talk about saving money around them but don’t dare talk about spending money. They are worth $2 million, yet they will use an appliance until it sets on fire. They will have old crappy appliances fixed until they cant be fixed any longer, or if it does have 5 seconds left on its life they will try to push their useless shit on their kids and expect them to grovel with gratefulness at their generous gift.”

11. MANIPULATIVE, CHATTY, CONNIVING

“Married 25 years and I’ve only grown to hate them more. Manipulative, chatty, conniving. All sister-in-laws are control-freak manipulators, constantly chatting, constantly berating others, constantly angling to get you to do something. And now I get to spend a whole freaking week with them on MY FAMILY VACATION AT MY CABIN. Nice.”

12. I PREFER MY HUSBAND’S FAMILY TO MINE

“I prefer my husband’s family to mine. They are much more pleasant to be around and don’t find it necessary to respond to comments and stories with advice, my family is very tedious to be around. Its only gotten worse since the Obama election and my father’s apparent need to punctuate every dinner with shouts about ‘It’s called the White House for a reason.’ Even if someone were to wave a magic wand and take away his hateful bullshit, I would still prefer my in-laws.”

13. I STARTED BITING BACK AT HER FAMILY

“My wife and I are happy with our marriage, but her family is not happy with me because eventually I started biting back at her family, defending our marriage and defending myself (as initially my wife didn’t want confrontation as she wants a relationship with me and her family, even though she knew what they were doing wrong). Things have changed and my wife is much more vocal in defending our marriage now.”

14. THEY ARE DISRESPECTFUL, LAZY AND OPINIONATED

“I basically dislike all of my hubby’s side of the family. He’s not a huge fan of them, either. They are disrespectful, lazy and opinionated, but think they do nothing wrong. We’ve gone long periods of no communication but hubby always winds up feeling bad and going back. The only way to get away is to leave the state.”

15. TOXIC PEOPLE

“My husband’s mom and brother are both horrible people and aren’t a part of our lives anymore because they don’t care about anyone but themselves and are just toxic people. They made my first pregnancy a horrible experience with all the judgmental comments and were just plain rude about everything! They showed up at the hospital 3 hours after she was born, and the first thing his brother said was I look like shit and they refused to hold her. They stayed for 5 minutes and complained about how far they had to drive to get to the hospital, a whole 20 minutes OMG!”

16. I CAN’T STAND MY GIRLFRIEND’S FAMILY

“I can’t stand my girlfriend’s family. It makes me want to break up with her because of them. I cannot stand them and I cannot stand being around them. Her brothers and sister are complete spoiled brats who think that the whole world revolves around them….Her mum is crazy, like literally crazy. She’s a hoarder and their house is absolutely full of junk and smells rotten, like it’s literally rotting. It stinks of mold and mildew and no matter where you go in the house, you can’t get away.”

17. I’M SURPRISED SHE HASN’T SPONTANEOUSLY ERUPTED INTO FLAMES

“I’ve never liked my girlfriend’s family! For a while, I was forced to go to a lot of these family dinners and gatherings, but I can never say anything, because they only speak about inside jokes and inside information regarding their family, at the dinner table. They are one of those families who forbid discussion of politics and religion. Typical blue-pilled turbo-normies! They make me feel very uneasy, especially the mother, who is just a bitter woman, and hates life. I’m surprised she hasn’t spontaneously erupted into flames.”

18. I JUST SIT THERE, BORED OUT OF MY MIND

“It’s always so awkward, her family (minus her) are heavily Catholic, and myself being an atheist, it’s a little hard to find common ground to converse on (especially because it seems like they exclusively talk about religion), so I just sit there, bored out of my mind for a few hours.”

19. THEY ARE INVOLVED IN EVERY ASPECT OF OUR LIVES

“It feels like they are involved in every aspect of our lives. My girlfriend can’t go a day without talking to or seeing her mother (‘Mommy’) her father (‘Daddy’) her crazy aunt or her even crazier sister. They call in the morning. They call at night. They call whenever they are bored. On average, my girlfriend talks to her family members seven to 10 times per day. They have no concept of time or a respect for our schedule. If they call while we are eating dinner, my girlfriend will patiently tell ‘Mommy’ that we are eating and she will call them back later (my girlfriend only recently started doing this after I told her that it’s rude to have a conversation while we are eating dinner). Mommy just keeps talking, as if she hasn’t heard a thing.”

20. YESTERDAY WAS THE LAST STRAW

“I’ve had it. Fuck it. My girlfriend’s mother not only grinds on my nerves in general but she also purposefully pisses me off and says things which are blatantly out of line—but ‘jokingly’—all the motherfucking time. I’ve had to live with these people for the past 4 months whilst my home got renovated (never again—you have no idea). Yesterday was the last straw. I just blew up, grabbed my shit, and left.”