The goal of marriage shouldn’t be to change your partner, but rather to deepen your relationship by acknowledging your commitment.
“Can I really trust that we are a team? That you will stand up for me to the rest of the world above all else? Do you really, truly GET me? Will you still love me, even if I completely disagree?”
Learning to balance the me-ness with the we-ness of your relationship is lifelong work that you will only improve on if you allow yourself to be influenced by your partner.
Couples in long-term relationships must learn to make the seemingly small and mundane moments actually pivotal moments that show your partner you are in tune with their world.