Stay Single Until You Love Yourself

Ilya Yakover

Your heart and your being can only be full if you give yourself everything that you can. Your soul and your body can only feel whole if you can give yourself the same amount of love and respect that someone else could.

You have to love yourself first.

Before him or her. Before falling in love with another human being. You need yourself. You need your self love and self compassion. You need to be able to love yourself wholeheartedly, flaws and all. You need to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and smile proudly back at your reflection.

It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s not going to happen in a couple days or a few months. But you need for it to happen in order for you to live your life to the fullest. In order for you to be capable of living an amazing life. In order to love harder than you ever have before. In order to stand on your own two feet without anyone else’s help.

You need to be able to look at yourself and be proud of who you are. You need to be able to hold your own hands, and hug your own body.

You need to realize that you do not need anyone else to fill your voids. You do not need anyone to take up space inside of your ribcage. You do not need anyone else in this world, to shine your light for you.

You just need yourself.

So stay single until you know your own worth. Stay single until you know your value to this world. Stay single until you can fill your own heart up. Stay single until you can smile genuinely at your self. Stay single until you beam with pride at your own heart. Stay single until you can truly tell yourself that you are worthy and wonderful and lovable.

Be your own hero first. Be your own whole person. Be your best self. Love your best self and your worst self and your mediocre self. Fall in love with every single piece of you. And don’t rush into anything. Don’t try to fill your holes up with someone new or with someone else.

You are the only person who can fill your own heart up. You are the only person who can love your whole heart, selflessly and fully. You are the only person who can make you happy and make your light shine even brighter.

So stay single until you can fall in love with every imperfection and crack and crevasse. Stay single until you can give yourself the value and the love that your heart deserves. Stay single until you can see that you are a magnificent being.

And stay single until you can realize that you do not need anyone else to truly be happy in this world. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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