It happened the other day. The company that I so often daydream of working for actually looked over my resume. They noticed the hard work that I had put forth towards this particular position and they noticed. They asked me to interview.
“This is it,” I thought, “This is the moment I’ve been waiting for.” I went through the interview and felt optimistic about the outcome. I waited to hear back giving myself positive vibes the whole time. I was sure I had it in the bag. It was the perfect match-up. I was already dreaming of my future as part of their team. Then, they turned me down. They had decided to go in a different direction and the success that I had felt just a week prior was suddenly non-existent. Was success really so fleeting? Was success really so dependent on just one thing?
I thought so.
I guess I had always dreamed of my success. I mean, really, who doesn’t? I had always associated my success with landing a job that I so desperately wanted. But say I got the job…then what? Would that be it? Would I have reached the height of my success and been stuck in limbo for the rest of my life? And since I hadn’t gotten the job…was I destined to be unsuccessful?
It took me several Dove chocolates and a couple of days spent wondering what I didn’t have to realize that success was never about getting exactly what I wanted. Success didn’t mean that I would find a path in life, pursue it, and get it. It was so much more than that.
I finally realized that success isn’t about achieving that dream. It’s about refusing to give up on my pursuit of the dream. It’s about refusing to let the failures and denials define me. It doesn’t matter how many times I had been denied. It doesn’t matter how many times someone told me that I can’t. And it doesn’t matter how many times I have felt like giving up. What matters is that I didn’t. I didn’t give up…and I won’t give up.
I don’t think success is about some end goal that we may be lucky enough to reach. I think true success is our ability to rise even after so many falls. Success isn’t an endpoint. It’s an ongoing journey that at times may be difficult. So yeah, my dream job denied me. I moped around for a solid three hours accompanied by the Housewives on Bravo before I realized that I wasn’t going to let them go that easily. I mean, this was like TRUE LOVE guys. You can’t just give up on something so easily. I may never land my dream job. But that doesn’t mean I am unsuccessful. Because success is not about never failing or being denied. It’s about rising after each fall and trying again.