An Open Letter To The Guys Who Quit Trying As Soon As She Says ‘I Love You’

I would like to remind you that she was doing well even before you came into her life. She was full of life, smiling from ear to ear, happiness and contentment are evident on her face. She was strong, independent and she lives her life to the fullest. Then you came in and took her by surprise. All of a sudden, you happened and offered her promises that made her heart leap. You charmed her with your words that you will make her your world, your universe, your life, your everything. You made her envision a tomorrow with you that’s more colorful, a future that you will spend together with. You swept her off her feet and made her realize that she can be happier with you, knowing you will always be there for her. You made her believe you will always be her #1 fan, and that you will always understand her, support her and above all else, love her with all you’ve got.

But what happened? Just when she gave you her everything you quit making an effort. When she decided to take a risk and let you in her life, you started breaking promises one by one. Just when she realized you are her life and she would like to spend the rest of her life with you, you started taking her for granted. Whatever happened to all those promises that made her heart skip a beat? Whatever happened to those charming and sweet words that enamored her entire being?  Whatever happened to the plans you had together that added meaning to her life when you came along?

Man up. Don’t be one of those men who realized the worth of their women by losing them. Don’t ever let her be that one who got away. Don’t be one of those men who played games and broke hearts. Don’t be a fool trying to count stars and ending up losing the moon. Don’t be one of those stupid men who learned the hard way because they got busy collecting stones and not keeping sight of the true diamond that they already had. Don’t wait for the day when someone else starts doing the things you should have done. Don’t allow another man to take her away from you because you didn’t care for her enough and you did not love her enough.

You don’t have to have much to make her happy. She doesn’t want perfect. She wants a life with you and will embrace the good and even the bad just to spend her entire lifetime with you. You don’t have to be anyone. Just be you. Be her #1 fan. Like her posts. Set her photo as your wallpaper. Compliment her. Make her day. Send her good morning messages. Tell her she’s beautiful, even without her make-up on and even if she just woke up. Ask her how her day went. Don’t let her skip a meal. Tell her you’re home safe. Text her good night. Crack jokes for her and let that laugh be heard again. Make promises you will keep and make her heart beat faster and slower all at the same time. Use your words to charm her and make her realize she’s worth every second of your time. Bring her to places that make her feel most alive. Plan adventures with her and for her. Surprise her even without a reason. Buy her favorite chocolate and comfort her more during those few days every month. Let her know she’s always on your mind. Always appreciate her, even with the little things. Do not take her for granted. Value her worth as a woman. Tell her she’s the reason why your life has meaning. Draw her close and embrace her and let her hear the erratic beating of your heart and that she drives you crazy. Care for her. Respect her and don’t put her in a position that will make her question her character and her worth. Treat her right. Do not make her jealous of other women, rather, make other women jealous of her.

And above all else, let her know that hurting her will be the very last thing on your mind. Assure her that it will not always be rainbows and butterflies but remind her that you will always be there for her through good times and the bad and you will always choose her, fight for her and no matter what happens, you will always love her with all your heart.