We’re all mostly aware of the  popular qualities attractive people tend to have – confidence, passion, a great sense of humor, etc. But there are a few qualities that tend to go under the radar and it’s time to give them the limelight they deserve:

1. Assertiveness

Being assertive is different from being aggressive, although the two often get grouped together. But there’s a calm, cool, and collected self-assuredness that assertive people possess. When they enter a room, from the way they walk to how they talk, they effortlessly grab your attention.

2. Subtlety

Subtlety is a delicate quality, and when done wrong, no one has a clue what you’re trying to do. But when done right, subtlety is the quality that leaves people wanting more of everything from you. The attractive thing about subtlety is that it always leaves room for imagination, and it’s a good thing to let people’s imagination run wild from time to time.

3. A Positive Demeanor

A person’s demeanor can say a lot about them. I always tell people, “I’m primarily attracted to a demeanor.” What does that mean? It means the manner in which people move and carry themselves and do things is what I tend to notice. A positive demeanor is sexy because it makes a person immediately stand out in a world where far too many people are walking around looking (and probably feeling) insecure.

4. Kindness

There’s something about watching someone perform an act of kindness to a total stranger that is eye-grabbing. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t think a lot of people are not attracted to “nice” people. It’s just that I think people know that “nice” doesn’t always mean good. Kindness, compassion, and empathy, especially when it may contradict what the person’s demeanor may indicate, are absolutely hot.

5. Calmness

Life can be really stressful and when we’re around people who ooze a laid-back calmness about them, they easily become more attractive to us. Whether it’s their touch or the sound of the voice, there’s something irresistible about people who know how to bring the intensity down a notch.

6. Thoughtfulness

Thoughtfulness is sexy because it’s the little things that really count. And when someone takes time out of their day to do the little things without being asked, they become all the more appealing. Being thoughtful also indicates that a person goes out of their way, which in a world that sometimes feels like people do the bare minimum, is a huge turn on.

7. Patience

Patience is the quality of those who are gods and goddesses among us because let’s face it – far too many of us do not practice patience in any shape or form. I think patience is sexy because a person reveals themselves to be willing to take their time; and also as a person who appreciates that the best things in life take time.

8. Balanced Honesty

Somewhere along the way, a dichotomy emerged that pitted being “brutally honest” versus “people pleasing” to the point where you can’t expect the truth from someone. But I think it’s extremely attractive when people have a way with words in which they tell the truth in a way that is obviously never meant to hurt, but still gets the point across. Even when you’re the receiver of their truth, you appreciate it and them, even more.

9. Reliability

When I think of the people who I truly admire, almost all of them are reliable people. It doesn’t get much better than a person who does what they say they’re going to do. Yes, life is full of surprises and things get in the way but seriously when you know you can count on someone, they are easily the most attractive person in any room.

10. Marching To The Beat Of Their Own Drum

I know we live in times where everyone wants to be the hot, awkward, quirky person who looks fierce in glasses. But this is not what I mean here. Have you ever just met someone who is different in a way that’s not trying too hard or showing off or pretentious? They are just the person who is truly dancing to the music that only they can hear. And it makes you intrigued, and curious, and drawn to not just the physical, but the very essence of their being.