If Unsolved Mysteries did an episode on this, I swear on my well-being they still wouldn’t have an answer. The great mystery of why good girls love bad guys continues to be another tally on my “why did I even go for his type?” list. So to all the John Mayers of the world (Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Jennifer Aniston, Taylor Swift, Minka Kelly, need I say more?) we’re calling you out on your bad boy antics and sending all our lady-friends a little food for thought. Let’s get down to business, shall we?
1. It’s taboo.
When your best friend, your sister, and your roommate tell you not to go for this guy, you find it your calling in life to prove them wrong. I’m talking about the one guy who everyone knows is dubbed un-dateable. Okay, so his track record with girls isn’t exactly flawless and to be completely honest, he hasn’t been in a real relationship in god knows how long. But for some reason you’re determined to be the one girl who changes him. Hun, I’m sorry but your idea of changing this bad boy will only go so far. You won’t be the girl who helped him get his shit together or the one who made it to girlfriend status, but the one who boosted his ego.
2. They’re in it for the thrill of it…
Wiz Khalifa couldn’t have said it better: “Most girls wanna hide the fact that the thrill they chasing.” I mean, isn’t it the truth? There’s something exhilarating about going after someone who isn’t exactly “dating material”. Is it because being the nice guy will only get him so far? Or is it that these types don’t play by the rules? Whatever it may be, for whatever reason, we find it necessary to win this guy over. Hope you love the chase, because that’s all it’s ever going to be.
3. … but they’re oblivious to the fact that they’ll always be strung along.
Ladies, you know what I’m talking about when I say bad guys are the type who will text you one minute and won’t respond the next. He seems excited about your so-called hang out for a few and the next you don’t hear from him in days. It’s an emotional roller coaster and you’re not strapped in. No matter how disappointed he makes you feel, you keep coming back for more. It’s an inevitable cycle, a never-ending story, a lose-lose situation and the worst part is many of you won’t stop the game.
4. It’s a stamp of approval.
Winning this guy is the ultimate goal, or so it seems. He’s the smart-ass, laid-back about everything and the one who struts with major confidence. He represents everything you’re not and it makes you want him more — you’re high-strung, he’s relaxed; you’re a perfectionist, he’s careless; you’re predictable, he’s spontaneous, you get the concept. When he treats you remotely well, it’s as if you’ve won his stamp of approval, the ball’s in your court, you won the unwinnable, but don’t be fooled by his charming ways. Soon enough, he’ll be on to his next lady-friend. I’m not saying there’s no hope for the John Mayers of the world or that he won’t in fact, “[I’m Gonna] Find Another You,” (or anyone for that matter) I’m just saying us girls need to realize he’s the bad boy of all boys. Don’t get caught up in chasing the guy who you think matters the most because in the end it’s just a game.