Let’s face it, it can take some time to feel completely sexually comfortable with someone. Sex isn’t always glitz and glamour, sex can occasionally be downright awkward…but that’s all part of the fun, right? Whether it’s a one-night stand or a long-term relationship, there are a few steps that need to be taken for all parties to reach the comfort level needed for a fun sexual relationship.
First, there needs to be trust and an ongoing open discussion around boundaries and what feels good for you both. Talk about your pleasure spots, what you like and what you dislike. Ultimately you want to get to the level where you can laugh about sex occasionally and definitely not take it too seriously.
Here’s 3 signs you and your partner are ridiculously comfortable about sex all the time:
YOU ARE COMPLETELY COMFORTABLE BEING NAKED TOGETHER, ALL THE TIME
If you’ve been jumping into bed together for a while, chances are you are prancing about naked without a second thought. Whether you just had sex and are laying together chatting, or you’re sharing a shower together after a big day…hanging out nude is a huge sign that you are beyond sexually comfortable with your partner.
YOU’RE OPEN ABOUT YOUR FANTASIES
Let’s be honest, talking about your sexual fantasies is personal…yet couples who are open and honest about their fantasies often have an amazing sexual relationship. This part of sex always comes down to trust. Being able to trust your partner with your sexual fantasy is essential. Remember, acting out fantasies together is an individual choice and often couples just like talking about them, not necessarily making them a reality.
YOU ENJOY TALKING ABOUT SEX BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER
Talking about what you want, what your desire, what feels good, what you fear, what you don’t want etc…there’s a long list of ‘stuff’ that we as humans talk about when it comes to sex. If you and your partner are comfortable enough to chat about sex before it’s even happened, during the act, and then afterwards, this is a sure sign that your comfort levels are through the roof.
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