4 Reasons You Shouldn’t Mind Your Own Business

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I had a recent talk with my coffee buddy and we took turns sharing stories from each others’ end. I told him the true tale about how I knew a guy who couldn’t make a decision about his current predicament, hence causing a ripple of shite-hits-the-fan terror for the rest of his family. This said guy, let’s call him Mr. H, has been a very close friend of mine. We’ve known each other for years. But for some reason, there was a force field unbeknownst to our awareness that disabled me from reaching out and giving him a piece of my mind. My coffee buddy, let’s name him Daffy, believed that I should mind my own business and keep my nose away from other people’s books.

Infuriated, I went on for an hour or so, explaining why I was against his opinion. I left my coffee cold but it was worth it:

1. If there’s something you can do about a problem, do it. Why would you allow someone you care about cause havoc upon themselves and their loved ones? People may be stupid, but it’s dumber to stay mute when you know saying something can be a huge deal.

2. Literally asking for help isn’t always the case. It may be due to pride or ego, but some people find it hard to ask for assistance in things. Maybe with all the demise that is happening, it’s already their cry for help – minus the actual cry.

3. If tables were turned, you would have wanted the same done for you. If you knew someone could foresee the damage that may occur, wouldn’t you want someone to gently tap you on the shoulder and say, “Dude, that’s whack,” as Joey from FRIENDS puts it.

4. It’s human nature to want to care. It’s impossible to lock yourself away from everybody. One way or another, human contact is a must and it can only be for so long before you get out of your cave and bask yourself in the sun – which in this case are feeling, people and their noise. No matter how despicable and irritable people could be, it is within the chaos where the light of things could appear.

My coffee buddy, Daffy, looked at me and nodded in agreement. But then he spoke these words, “If you’ve felt this all the while, why haven’t you said something to him all this time then?”

My eyes widened, laughing nervously. My cold coffee tasted bad in my mouth, just like the moral conflict between doing what’s right and staying out of trouble.