She’s been led on. She’s been dumped. She’s been given more mixed signals than she can count. She’s experienced all of the bad aspects of relationships with little of the good. She’s used to being disappointed, so if you really love her, you wouldn’t dare to disappoint her again.
She honestly doesn’t mind the single life.
She’s wary of starting new relationships, because whenever she’s liked a guy in the past, she’s always been let down. That’s why she believes it’s better to be single than to be in a relationship that’s eventually going to crumble and leave her trapped in the wreckage. So if you like her, you better show her you’re worth her trouble, because she’s not going to commit without thinking long and hard about the decision first.
She keeps her expectations low.
She has high standards, but low expectations. That’s why you shouldn’t be insulted if she’s surprised to get a phone call from you. It’s in her nature to assume that you, and any other man she meets, is going to ghost on her or use her for sex or hurt her in some other way. She’s not used to getting treated the right way, because she’s been screwed over so many times.
You can lose her trust easily.
You might not think that lying about being sick to get out of date night is a big deal. But, in her mind, it’s the worst thing you could possibly do. If you’re willing to lie to her over something small, then what’s stopping you from lying over something serious? What’s stopping you from cheating? If you fool her once, you’ll forever lose her trust.
She tries hard not to get her hopes up.
If you promise to take her on a romantic date into the city to see a show, don’t be surprised when all she offers is a polite smile. It’s not that she’s ungrateful. She’s purposely holding back her excitement. She doesn’t want to get her hopes up, just in case you two break up by then or you get stuck at work that day or the show gets cancelled. She’s used to being let down. She knows how painful it feels and doesn’t want to experience it ever again.
She only relies on herself.
She knows how to make her own money and cook her own meals and kickstart her own orgasms, because she realizes that the only person she can truly rely on is herself. So don’t be offended when she turns down your offer to help her change a tire. She’s afraid of losing her independence. She doesn’t want to get used to having you around to help and then have you yanked out of her life.
She avoids making plans for the future.
It’s not that she doesn’t want to marry you. She just doesn’t want to think about marrying you, because if you two end up breaking up, it’ll make moving on a million times harder. She’d rather take life one day at a time, so she can avoid developing any unnecessary hopes and dreams. She loves you, but she doesn’t want to assume that you’ll always be around, because she knows how quickly things can change.