1. Holy crap

“I’d leave you for the person you used to be.”

2. That’s sad

My ex and I were having a hypothetical conversation about going through “thick-and-thin” situations and how we’d react to it. She asked me if I’d continue to love her if she was confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life. I told her I thought it would be a huge change, but I could deal with it because it would only be physical. It wouldn’t change her personality.

I asked her the same question, and her reply was “Absolutely not. I have needs.” I thought she was joking at first, but she was dead serious.

Needless to say, I didn’t see her in the same light anymore.

3. Right. In. The. Feels.

Girlfriend of two years broke up with me in 2011 because she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. Last week she sent me a message on Facebook and said “Even though we didn’t work out, I’m glad you were my first for everything.”

God damn, right in the feels.

4. She sounds awful

She was dumping me and I said “I loved you so much.”

She replied, “Let this be a lesson to you.”

Her mother had warned me months earlier that I could do better.

5. WHERE ARE THE ONIONS COMING FROM

I was breaking up with her. We were both crying and I tried to console her, saying “It’s going to be okay.” She said, “I know it will be, I just wish it could have been okay with you.”

6. When their own father says that…well…

“I never loved you. ever. I lied.” Well. That’s typical. Actually it was what her dad said to me afterwards (I work with him.) “I always like you. You’re a nice guy. You can do better than her.” Coming from her father, it meant a lot.

7. So freaking brutal

As she was breaking up with me:

Me: “I feel like you’re going to regret this.”

Her: “I know I will.”

8. She grabbed my chin and…

Not the last thing, but every time I came one gf would grab my head, make eye contact, and say, “Every time you cum remember this moment.”

Thanks lady. It worked.

9. Crazy girl

“Who the fuck is this, and why are you calling MY MAN!” Said to my boss when she called to update me on a project.

She would randomly take my phone and answer incoming calls despite me telling her not to.

10. That’s really awful

“You treat me like a mother you can fuck.”

I don’t know what it is about that sentence, but it hurt and I still remember it 5 years later.

11. This is actually pretty amazing

She has said a couple things:

“I love you more than anything in the world, and always will, but you love heroin more than me or yourself.”

At the time, I for sure did. Relapsed on heroin after 2.5 years off the stuff, and 2 years into our relationship. Got into a program after the first time she caught me, then relapsed after 60ish days clean. She was perfect, the relationship was great, but I just wasn’t ready to put the drugs down. I admire her courage to cut it off after she discovered me using again.

I went on a serious 8 month run after that, and truly discovered the meaning of pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization. 12 weeks ago, I decided to give up, resigned from my job, and moved into a sober living all the way across the country. I’m grateful she helped me find that gift of desperation. She reached out to my mother to figure out how to contact me a few weeks ago, got my new number, and texted me this:

“If the only good thing that ever comes from our relationship is you getting clean, I’ll be the happiest girl in the world.”

12. Holy shit

“I wish this kid wasn’t yours.”

She said it right in the middle of our biggest fight to date. She ended up miscarrying a couple months later. Other things (that were arguably just as bad) were said as well… but that’s the one I can still hear loud and clear.

13. What the fuck

If you don’t pick me up from X bar I’m going to walk into a frat house and fuck as many dudes as I can.

Fun relationship right there.

14. Timing’s a bitch

My ex and I broke up because I graduated from college and was moving to another city to find a job and she had a semester left but couldn’t handle long distance. We were planning to try and make it work, but 3 weeks before I left I broke it off because it wasn’t working under all the stress.

Two lines stick out to me.

The day before I left the radio was on and Led Zeppelin came on. I said something about how I haven’t heard the song in a while (can’t remember which song though) and she said, “Who is it?” I replied with, “Wow, you don’t know this? I’ll give you a hint. It’s my favorite band of all time.” We had dated for over 2 years and she still didn’t know. She said smiling, “Maybe I should have been a better girlfriend to you.” I still can’t put my finger on it, but it really struck me when she said that.

The other one happened the morning I left. We lived together and when I finished packing all my stuff into my car and we hugged and all I said was, “I’m sorry this didn’t work out” to which she replied, “Me too.” That was it. I left while she cried in her hands. I know why I can’t forget that one. We were still in love, but it was over.

15. Ahh, that sucks

Almost a year after she broke up with me:

“you know how I said I never wanted to get married? I often thought you could have been the exception.”

I cried then and there.

16. That’s all that matters

“You’ll never do as good as me.” After I broke up with her for suspected cheating (confirmed it was true 2 weeks later).

It stung hearing it at the time (because I did still have feelings for her and still remembered the girl she used to be to me).

But lucky for me, I upgraded long term, because my wife is more attractive physically than her and far more attractive from a personality standpoint.

17. What the fuck – who the fuck says shit like that

“I wish you would have died in Afghanistan.” Never goes away no matter what.

18. Pushing the blame

“You stressed me out and it’s your fault I lost the baby.”

19. Ouch

“I thought I liked you, I don’t. I only like what you did for me.”

20. So…miscarriage? Or heavy period? Did she cheat? What’s going on

“I just started my period but it came out all gushy and huge and there were big blobs in it. I think I might have just had a miscarriage.”

This being the day after she got back from seven months in another country.

21. Ugh, asshole

“I’m just not ready be in a serious relationship right now. I need to find myself. I need experience.”

Two weeks later she was dating the guy I sensed her becoming close with. They were in a serious relationship for 3 years.

22. Ladies, don’t do this

I don’t know why this sticks with me after six years. She strung me along, cheated on me, dumped me by text, and still continued to string me along. She was smart, beautiful, and approached sex like a dehydrated person approaches water. We continued to have sex a year after she dumped me and still continued to tell me she loved me. I was her “black tar heroin.” Her best friend.

But I had enough, and started dating my wife. It hit her hard, and she tried to seduce me after I started dating my wife. This girl was the dark to my wife’s light, everything bad and wrong to what was good and right with my wife. I told her I couldn’t do that to her (my wife). I couldn’t ever hurt her like that.
At first, she seemed to understand, but when I cut off ALL contact, she blew up my phone, accusing me of being like all the other douchebags she was ever with.

Then: “Didn’t you love me?”

That’s what stuck. I did love her, to the point I damn near died. Yet she kept hurting, torturing, and stinging me. I saved myself, and I didn’t give a fuck if she needed me. She wasn’t there when I needed her, so fuck her. She was ugly inside, and my wife puts her to shame in every fucking way.

I love my wife.

23. Slow clap

“Pretty please with a cherry on top, fuck me please.”

It’s not even that great written down, but at the time…man… it was fucking magical.

24. Roll call was the worst

Every time she came for the first several months she screamed my full name. I’ll be a pavlov dog, cause I still, over a year after I last heard her say it, get hard when I hear my full name.

You apparently can be conditioned.

25. Ouch, ouch, ouch

Positive: “I feel safe when I’m with you.”

Negative (about a year later as we were breaking up): “You were almost always there for me when I was crying, but nobody was there for me when you made me cry.”

We didn’t live together and apparently there were times where I upset her and she didn’t tell me about it. I don’t know which is worse: the fact that I apparently made her cry multiple times, or the fact that I had no idea it happened.

26. Wow, that’s a real bitch thing to say

Her: “He makes 120,000 a year. What can you ever offer me that he can’t?”

Me: “Undying love and affection.”

Her: “Not good enough.”

The woman I loved, my fiance, left me for a man with more money after I held her when she cried, helped her negotiate a substantial pay raise at her current job [30-40k+ benefits] and helped her find a new apartment. It hurts. I see women nearly all the time judge men by how much they make. It’s a horrible bias, but I realized that aside from my mother, I may have met 1 woman who didn’t judge me by how much money I [don’t] make. I just want love. I don’t want to be bitter, but I’ll never forget those words.

27. Mind-boggling

“Do you love me because you need me, or do you need me because you love me?”

28. She really mess this guy up

“You’re just not the same person I fell in love with. I wish I was a stronger person to be there for you during this, but every time I look at you I just see the person you were before the accident. I hope one day you forgive me.”

I had awoken from a coma weeks earlier from a motorcycle accident and the pain meds and surgeries were rotting away my mind and morale. These words have stuck with me to this day. It took me several years to understand where she was coming from but unfortunately I took out that hate and anger on many people along the road. To this day, I do not trust people nor find myself ever getting close enough to someone to be in a relationship.

There is something to be said about being left when you were at your lowest.

29. Is that ever an excuse?

“You cared too much.”

I get that being overly nice equates to not having a backbone but showing that you care about someone is different. That was six years ago. I can’t show too much emotion now because of those words. Still trying to get over that and I hope I’ll overcome that soon.

30. Great way to handle it

Took my mom to a dance class (my dad was working, and she had her heart set on going). Saw my ex there with the guy that she had been seeing on the side when we broke up. We get to talking quite amiably on an interlude between dances when she comes out and says, “You know what your problem is? You’re not a people person.” I choke on a laugh, because I can start a conversation with anybody, am an extrovert, and make friends very easily. I look at her very seriously, and say, “Heather, do you know what the difference between when we were together and now is? I don’t have to listen to you anymore. Now excuse me, I didn’t come here for you.” I left her gawping on the stairs and went and had a nice dance with my mum.

It’ll always stick with me… It was funny as hell!

31. We can feel how brutal it is…

When I broke up with my last ex, I said, “I was so in love with you.”

She replied with, “I know.”

We both cried. I fell in love first, but by the time she came around, I had pretty much checked out of the relationship. It lasted for a couple years, and the whole thing was emotionally brutal for the both of us.