You don’t enjoy sex if you don’t have an emotional connection with your partner. That being said, you connect emotionally with just about everyone you meet so this isn’t really a problem for you. You’re a warm and enthusiastic lover who enjoys exploring all facets of their sexuality. You don’t NEED sex in the physical sense of the word but as soon as you meet someone you’re excited about, it is ON. In whatever weird new way you can think of.
You get off on making other people happy so when you’re in a committed relationship, your sex drive is through the roof. You err on the conventional side sexually but that’s not necessarily a bad thing – you’re a giver in life and a giver in the bedroom. Y’all hate to ever disappoint.
You see sex as a challenge (Okay you see everything as a challenge). You want to be constantly improving sexually and consistently finding new ways to make the experience more intense for both yourself and your partner (Edging must have been invented specifically for and by the INTJs). The flip side of this highly mental game is that you can occasionally let loose during sex – you enjoy the rare opportunity to temporarily detach from your over-active mind and let your physical impulses take over. It’s not often your brain gets a break – sex can occasionally provide that outlet.
You approach sex the way you approach everything else – loudly, proudly and as a prime opportunity to flex your muscles. You take a great deal of enjoyment in sex but don’t focus much on connection. Can you last forever? Yes. But do your partners kind of feel like you’re just masturbating using their body? Also yes.
You guys put the love in lovemaking. Potential partners need to know that for you, sex is never strictly a physical affair. Getting it on is a matter of connecting emotionally with whomever you’re sleeping with, which is why the INFP/ENFJ duo is dynamite. The only thing you guys love more than romantic intimacy is reflecting on said intimacy once it’s over. You want a partner whose lovin’ makes you feel something.
Does the idea of having sex in a pre-determined position with a consistent partner at exactly 9pm on every Tuesday, Wednesday and Saturday evening appeal to you? You must be an ISTJ. This type sees sex as a systematic part of any healthy relationship. While you do intrinsically enjoy doing the nasty (Who doesn’t?), you’re not keen to try anything crazy. People sleep with you when they want a predictably good time.
You enjoy the physical component of sex much more so than the romantic/intimate portion. You’re highly visual and are turned on by immediately apparent stimuli – think lingerie, perfume, a swanky hotel suite that begs you to have sex in it. You’re not into anything too crazy sexually but you’re open to trying different things. You can err on the promiscuous side but if it requires work, forget it. You can masturbate alone. No issue there.
You’re a warm, affectionate lover who wants to make your partner happy above all else. You see sex as a concrete opportunity to show your partner how you feel about them and want to make sure that everyone’s enjoying him or herself throughout. Sex can occasionally feel like a chore, but you don’t mind getting it on if you’re not in the mood so long as it makes your partner happy. You’re sexually traditional but you make up for it in enthusiasm.
You have a hard time getting out of your head in bed. You need to feel a high level of comfort with a partner before you’re able to be intimate with them, emotionally or physically. That being said, once you come out of your shell, you get freaky (in a good way). You like to experiment and you enjoy when a partner exposes you to new ways of doing things. INTPs go through long periods of celibacy but are all in once someone gets them going.
Your goal is first and foremost to accommodate the person you’re sleeping with. Sex is an opportunity to physically display your love so it’s best with someone you’re involved with and committed to. You’re not naturally a freak in the sheets but whatever your partner is interested in you’re up for (within reason). You want to experience connection and show devotion to your partner, which sex offers a perfect opportunity for.
Like most N-dominant types, you can be described as borderline sapiosexual. You don’t just want to fuck someone’s body – you want to delve in deep and fuck their mind. You’re turned on by the strange, the intelligent, the lustful and the downright kinky. The stranger and more perverted the fantasy, the better. You’re the reason why kink websites exist.
You believe that actions speak louder than words, which means that a great way to show someone how much you care about them is to give them the good lovin’. You’re the very definition of sensual and you’re as physically creative in bed as you are in all other pursuits. Your partners feel appreciated, wanted and satisfied. Good work.
You’re direct about what you want, which is great. You’re also athletic, interactive, engaged – all objectively good things when it comes to sex. Just remember that unlike sports, sex has an emotional component to it. If you’re not checking in with your partner to make sure they’re comfortable and enjoying him or herself, you’re not going to score more than once.
Is someone looking for a dominant, Christian Grey-style lover? Everyone knows that you’re the one to call. You’re imaginative and explorative in the bedroom, remaining highly receptive to your partner’s desires. Nothing pleases you more than knowing that your partner went on a unique, relatively kinky sexual journey – and that it was you who led them there fearlessly.
You take a while to get physical. Before you get it on with someone you want to trust them, understand them, and connect with them on a core level. You aim to please in the bedroom, making sure your partner is eternally comfortable and happy around you. The best sex is intimate, passionate sex between two people who connect on a mental – borderline spiritual – level. Give you that and you’re a firecracker in the bedroom.
You win at sex. First of all you have extroverted sensing paired with introverted feeling, which basically means that you ooze sexuality. You place a high emphasis on the satisfaction of your partner, you’re incredibly open-minded and your sheer set of physical/sexual skills is unmatchable. Simply put, you’re amazing in bed. Gold star. You’re the holy grail of sexual partners and don’t you ever forget it.