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June 9, 2017

8 Uncomfortable Signs You’re Growing Apart From Your Best Friend

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Shamim Nakhai

Growing apart from your best friend is painful as hell. It’s basically a breakup on steroids. If you’re still unsure of what’s happening between you & your BFF, check out these signs.

1. You don’t keep up with your traditions anymore.

You used to get together to watch the first basketball game of the season or the premiere of the Bachelorette. Somewhere along the way, those traditions fell by the wayside.

2. You don’t have as much in common as you used to.

When you were in college, it was so much easier. You were focused on the same things and you were in the same circles. Now that you’re settling into your post-grad life, you don’t have as many of the same interests.

3. You don’t call them right away when something exciting happens.

You used to call your best friend whenever something cool happened – when you got a promotion or went on a date. Now? It just doesn’t cross your mind to immediately share those things anymore.

4. You have different views on divisive issues.

Although having different political views than your best friend doesn’t mean the friendship has to end, sometimes it’s a sign of something bigger like your varying ethical codes.

5. You feel like you’re still friends more out of a sense of shared history than actual friendship.

You’ve been best friends for 10 years – what does it matter that you wouldn’t like this person if you met them today? Sometimes, that thinking keeps us stuck in best friendships that would be better left alone.

6. You’re not curious about their life.

Before, you were pumped to know the details of the latest crush your best friend had. Now? It’s just boring to hear updates.

7. They don’t make an effort to fit into the new parts of your life.

You have new work friends that you’re so excited to introduce your best friend to but then your BFF sits on there phone the entire happy hour. They don’t make any effort to understand this new part of your life.

8. You don’t have that much fun with them anymore.

When you’re together, you really have to try to enjoy that time. Although friendships take effort, it shouldn’t be an effort to have fun with your friends. TC mark