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May 10, 2017

Why Things Have To Get Worse Before They Can Get Better

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Kyle Ellefson

A Consciousness shift is happening in the world. The universe moves towards a brighter future for all, but at the same time, people are concerned about the shifts and the intensity of the changes. Many of us would like to understand better what is really happening on the planet.

What is going on in the collective unconscious is being brought up to the surface. The world as we see it is an expression of the collective beliefs. If we want to evolve and live in a better world we have to change the belief system first. 

Humanity has been operating from a self-centred, victim and scarcity – consciousness for millenniums and before a shift to unity consciousness can occur, old structures which have been built on fear, control, and power have to be brought into our awareness.

Awareness of something is the prerequisite for healing.

We all have heard the saying that all change is happening on the inside. Therefore the best way to support the planet is to stay calm and centred within our own being during challenging times. If you know who you are, a centre of love, wisdom and pure awareness all problems subside and the mind merges into silence. When you practice detachment and discrimination you won’t be ruled by your senses and by your mind and your pure being emerges as the natural state.

In remembering who you truly are the light of unconditional awareness will emerge. 

If something happens that we consider as being an extremely challenging situation or a tragic event we have the choice to freeze in fear or to break open and to create space for compassion and love.

Our True Self is not the limited mortal body, mind, and intellect, but the eternal, blissful consciousness that pervades creation. When one truly recognises one’s own Self in all beings, one becomes an embodiment of peace, love, and compassion capable of uplifting the world.

In the rest of the article, I will focus on individual healing journeys and how you can deal with the arising challenges.

Some of you who are new to this transformation journey may have experienced a lot of confusion and inner turmoil. Some of my clients are going through periods where they feel aligned and empowered and then through periods of doubt and fear or they manifest physical symptoms such as constant migraines, body aches, and extreme fatigue.

What happens at the beginning of a healing journey?

Did you ever hear someone saying that things often get worse before they get better, or you might have also heard the term “healing crisis” or “integration period? “

A healing crisis is often part of the healing process. If we want to be true to ourselves, we have to release our old wounds and conditioning. Some people call this healing, others integration.

I believe that any form of healing is about remembering who we truly are. It is about reconnecting with our Soul, our Higher Self, and our Intuition. It is about letting go of conditioning and giving ourselves permission to be who we truly are instead of being who we think we should be.

The higher Self is an infinite aspect of our consciousness that goes beyond the ordinary ego consciousness and it has a greater overview of all possibilities

Even though I do often use the word healing as many people can relate to it, the word wholeness would be a more accurate expression. The need to “heal” is a duality based concept and assumes that something is wrong, but believing that something is right-wrong or good-bad is duality conditioning. We all have been conditioned to judge and to believe in lack. If we let duality aside, any arising challenges are understood as part of perfection, a part of the whole. The sole purpose to work through them is to develop compassion and be of service to others. We should be careful that our life does not become a never-ending self-improvement project.

The good news is that higher frequencies transcend duality. When we raise our vibration, many redundant issues will fall away and we will able to see the perfection in something that has previously appeared to be wrong or ugly.

When you get more established in the heart whatever happens in your life is a blessing. ~Mooji

To raise our vibration, we can use various permission slips or creative healing interventions. Let your intuition be your guide when choosing which one works best for you.

Here is my personal list:

  • Helping someone in need
  • Reaching out to friend
  • Spending time with pets or children
  • Breaking routine/ doing something creative
  • Relaxation / Meditation
  • Reading a high vibe book
  • Appreciating something beautiful
  • Using high-quality essential oils (rose oil is measured at 320 MHz, Lavender at 118 MHz)
  • Spending time in nature
  • Dancing and listening to high-frequency music
  • Kundalini Yoga/Qigong

I have observed many times after a Soul Plan Reading session for example that some of the stuck patterns simply disappeared. The more we connect with who we truly are the more balanced we become and this can also have a positive knock-on effect on our physical and emotional health.

Feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted for example is often an indicatior that we think too much and that our thoughts argue with what is. When we rest in our true nature we feel energised and lighthearted.

Another common trap of wasting precious life-force energy is to mentally living in other people’s business and assuming to know what’s best for them. This usually leads to contraction and tension, and we waste precious life force energy while wondering why we are feeling exhausted at the end of the day.

As you begin your healing journey, all the dormant, low and stuck energy starts moving. Everything that needs to be healed moves out through you.

Imagine a pond, which catches stones, sticks, leaves and waste. On the surface, the water may still look clear, but if someone stirs the water, all the mud rises to the surface.

Therefore, it is quite often that individuals who start doing some healing work experience a “healing crisis”, because all those suppressed and repressed emotions come to the surface so that they can be felt, integrated and released. Everything unnecessary has to go.

You can also compare it with a detox period. If you’ve ever done any kind of fasting or gave up caffeine, you may be very familiar with the various kinds of unpleasant symptoms such as a headache, body aches, joint and muscle pain, sinus congestion, or nausea and noticed that it took some time until your body has released toxins from the system. If you persevered and didn’t give up you started to feel the benefits, e.g. feeling much lighter, healthier and energised.

Energetic and spiritual healing is a similar process. The goal of energetic healing is to shine the light of awareness on any stagnant or low energy and replace it with healed, cleansed, and purified energy. There is usually a time lag until this shift happens. 

The majority of the population is unaware that we are more than just our physical bodies. There are also several subtle bodies, or layers, around the physical body. These energetic layers or subtle bodies create an interconnected field of energy around the physical body that is commonly known as the auric field. Even though these layers cannot be seen with the physical eyes, they can be seen psychically through the third eye or with the help of Kirlian photography.

The physical body consists of energy that vibrates very slowly. That’s why it appears to our physical eyes to be solid. We believe that everything that we can touch is definitely real and everything that is ethereal in nature is not real. But it is actually completely the other way around. The more subtle something is, the more real it is.

When we start doing healing work, any suppressed, dormant emotions and energies from past trauma or denial get stirred up. We might even attract many emotionally challenging situations which will show us what requires attention and what we need to let go. If we want to heal we need to address the cause and not the symptom.

If someone triggers us for example, we have the tendency to blame the other person, instead of looking at the situation in such a way that the other person might even do us a favour. The situation or the individual is usually just a trigger or catalyst. The pain was already in us. Otherwise, we would not get triggered, and the other individual is often simply pointing out what requires attention.

He or she offers us the opportunity to look inside and get in touch with any suppressed and repressed emotions or to make some changes in the way we respond to certain situations. During this process, you might also need to set healthy boundaries or leave dysfunctional relationships behind. If someone has a very hostile attitude for example and attacks you in spite of your forgiveness and compassion it is better to remove yourself from this person or situation.

It can take time until you start feeling those repressed emotions again, and it is important to be gentle with yourself during healing. What often happens is that we start to feel frustrated, impatient, disappointed and upset or even question if we are on the right path if we don’t get immediate results.

It will be easier to persevere if you remember that this is part of the healing and the stuck energies are coming to the surface so that they can be released. It is an indicator that healing is working very well. If you don’t give up, you will reap the benefits and feel much lighter, awake, energised and happier afterwards.

“Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” ~Pema Chodron

From a higher perspective, we often choose to go through certain challenges but I know from experience that everything goes much more smoothly if I reach out for help during any intense growth, healing and transformation periods. Finding support and connecting with like-minded people during this time is crucial. I recommend spending as much time as possible in nature to cleanse any lower energies. Drinking sufficient water after healing will help to flush out toxins from the body. You might also need to rest and relax more than usual.

I am happy to give you a hand during this process. The following pre-recorded healing session is designed to “connect you with your inner healer”In this healing session (36 min.), I will take you on a beautiful journey where you can connect with your breath, the present moment and meet your inner healer.

I have also recorded a guided “master your emotions meditation” which will help you to:

  • Listen to your emotional guidance system
  • Release trapped emotions
  • Feel empowered
  • Transform emotions such as anger and jealousy into self-esteem and inner strength
  • Embody any emotional state and understand that true transcendence is all-embracing, and all-encompassing. TC mark