1. When something in your life isn’t working, you change it.

2. Life doesn’t get to a place where you never feel overwhelmed from time to time. However, those times are few and far between and when they happen you figure out a plan and help yourself. You may call your parents or a friend, but it’s to vent, not to guilt them into solving your problems for you.

3. You seek out self-improvement. Not because you want to get beach bod ready, but because you value your physical and mental health and you want to improve yourself.

4. You have a home you are proud to bring people to. It could be a studio apartment, but you take pride in it, keep it clean, and have it decorated like a real person’s home.

5. Your dating relationships aren’t dramatic. If they end, it happens, you don’t try to assassinate their character or post passive aggressive Facebook updates about them. You also remain hopeful in relationships even if you’re single. You’re not overly cynical about it and it’s not a big deal. It will happen at some point.

6. You know at least three meals you can cook yourself that don’t come out of a box or a can. Additionally, there is food in your fridge

7. When you make a mistake, you own up to it. You don’t blame other people or vague societal forces for the less than desirable aspects of your life, you realize YOU are in control.

8. You manage your finances instead of running away from them.

9. Not everything is fun, but you know when you have to do it anyway.

10. You can’t remember the last time you drunk texted someone something you wouldn’t have said sober. You still drink, it’s just not a blackout event you use as an excuse to do all the things you’re too nervous to do otherwise.

11. Workplace gossip isn’t for you. You don’t shame people who engage in it, you just smile politely and find something else to do.

12. You’re confident that no matter what happens in life, you can handle it. You’ve come to realize how competent and resourceful you are — who better to have by your side in a pinch?

13. There are days, more often than not, that you feel you are finally getting somewhere. You’re not sure where, exactly, you’re going to be in the future, but it looks bright and you trust your decision-making ability enough to know you’ll like where it is.