“It sucks when you know in your head that you need to let go of something, but you don’t because you still have hope in your heart that the impossible might happen.” – unknown.
Letting go of someone is always hard, we had that person in our life for a reason right? But, what happens when you are forced to let go of something that you are clinging to for dear life?
What happens when you can’t eat, or sleep, or breathe anymore because this person walked out of your life?
I’ve lived this chapter of my life. I’ve cried myself to sleep. I’ve wished and prayed that this person would come back and it would be like a happily ever movie. I’ve felt the gut wrenching pain of not wanting to let go.
In the end, though, we have to let go. We have to say goodbye to that chapter in our lives and close the book for good. It’s one of the hardest things to do as a person.
We are human and we have feelings, we love and we hurt. It’s just another part of life. You might be saying, “sure it’s easier said than done.” You would be right. I never thought I would get past the feeling of losing someone I cared so much about. Trust me, though, it can and will happen. You will be the person you were before, the person who got up every day and faced the world with a smile on their face.
No one has a manual for getting over someone but, here’s what I recommend.
Cry it out.
You’ve got to let it out! Cry, scream, yell, punch something if you must (preferably nothing living). Just get it out of your system, don’t bottle it up.
Go out with your friends. Or, if you aren’t ready for that yet have them come to you. Just get your best friends together. The people that know you better than anyone else and have fun. They say laughter is the best medicine and it really is. Your friends will always know how to help you through a tough situation, including mending your broken heart.
Find Your Passion.
I’m not saying figure out what you want to do with your life (hell, I don’t’ even know that part yet). Just find something that makes you happy. Something you can do by yourself. Love nature? Go for a hike or bike ride through a park. Paint, take a cooking class, volunteer at an animal shelter, just go do something that will make YOU feel good for doing it. Sometimes just remembering how amazing you are as an individual can start to help you close that book on someone else.
This is the biggest part. You made it through the other steps and now you’re here. You’re at the point where you must say you are finally done. Throw away the old letters, delete the old texts, get rid of the pictures, and say goodbye to that part of your life. This might be the hardest step of them all. It’s ok to have that hesitation of wanting to send a quick text and see how they are doing. But, just remember once you do, you are starting all the way back at the beginning.
Having the strength to turn the page and look in the mirror and say you let go is terrifying, and empowering all at the same time. If you can do it you will feel so much better. The days will keep going and that person who put you in that dark place will slowly begin to fade away.
I lived it already. Remember?