18 Things You’ll Wish You Did 10 Years From Now
1. Made it a point to take care of your friendships before they needed repairing, or your only interactions were to get together once in a while to “catch up.”
2. On the contrary, stopped hanging out with people you didn’t really like, people who were friends out of convenience or something, or you hung onto because you thought that success meant a heaping selection of friends that you really only took photos and got drinks with but still had to take care of all the other intricacies that “friendship” entails.
3. Realized the great freedom of getting to go to the bar for a drink without having to find a babysitter. And then relishing in the fact that you could have more than a drink or two because you were young, resilient and (possibly) not yet responsible for other people.
4. Learned to cook for yourself.
5. Started saving, even in tiny bits here and there. That you shredded the credit cards, aside from one for emergencies, and especially the individual store ones because you knew it was never anything but a recipe for disaster.
6. Took the riskier job when it was more feasible to take major risks.
7. Not settled for a relationship out of fear of being alone. This will catch up to you sometime down the road. It always does.
8. Went out on random dates. Kissed people, talked to attractive strangers at the bar, things that won’t always be appropriate. Let yourself be all caught up in the ecstasy of the possibility of someone new. You’re young and hot, and you’ll be mad you didn’t take advantage of that while you could. (Not to mention, you won’t realize how young and hot you are until later on.)
9. Learned to assert yourself more confidently in social situations.
10. Learned to communicate effectively while wearing the different hats of your life: in your relationships, at your job, etc.
11. “Traveled,” whatever that means for you. I feel like when people suggest this as a must-do for one’s young adult life, it has this implication of quitting your job and traveling the whole world. This doesn’t have to be the case because it’s just not always a viable option for people. But as you grow up and older, and friends move away to different cities, and people ask you to accompany them on a trip, and the urge strikes you to spend a weekend in a nearby city you never really explored, by all means, you’ll wish you had.
12. Left when you wanted to go in relationships. Realized that you didn’t need any other excuse, and you wasted more time on finding one than you did on the relationship.
13. Worked an hourly job, like waiting tables. I know this seems counter-intuitive, because why would we look back and regret not doing grueling hard labor? Well, because one day you’ll realize that there’s nothing more humbling. It teaches you more than you’ll learn at an office job by the way of life and people skills and what it’s like to really start seeing your existence as only having the purpose of bringing cheap-tipping people their overpriced entrees.
14. Read when you had the chance to carve out time to quietly do so.
15. Found a way to comfortably and happily “exercise” (preferably something that helps your mind AND body) and got into a regular routine of doing it.
16. Made peace with the past, especially your childhood.
17. Went to school, took classes, learned about whatever, not because you thought it would be lucrative, but because you wanted to and it could be a way you later found brought the possibility of both pursuing a passion and being able to pay your rent.
18. Cared enough to figure yourself out, so you could do all of these effectively. Dealt with the major, overlying issues of your person so you could actually go on with your life after something traumatic happened. This can look like therapy or seeking out proper medication or just acknowledging things for what they are and then moving as far away from them as possible or something I can’t even muster up because no two paths are the same, and all that will ever matter is figuring out how to live happily through means that are the most “you” that you can make them.
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13. SEAMLESS it up. Tweet about how much you like seamless. Pat yourself on the back for being so groundbreakingly original.
I never set out to break the girl code, but my habits won over my morals and with every drink, my inhibitions loosened.
In the brief amount of time it takes to reach your train station, hit the front of the lunch line, or collect your latte, you’ve somehow managed to project an intricate life together with this person, and, as you obviously know nothing about them, you kindly, thoughtfully, take the initiative of filling in the blanks.
Surrounded by crowds, but still lonely. Alone in your apartment and still lonely.