Anxious — Accept that pain is part of life, and it’s especially part of a life well-lived. You’re going to have to risk being hurt if you want a chance at really being loved.
Be friends with different types of people. Don’t insulate your worldview by only socializing with those who are fundamentally the same as you.
You begin to understand that no relationship is a “failure.” You learned what you had to learn, and then you were set free to find a better fit.
You know that look – the one when someone’s face somehow swells with emotion without really changing expression.
Why do you think the people who hurt you most did what they did?
The advocator is motivated by justice. They only aspire to something when it has a deeper meaning and purpose, particularly in the realm of transforming the self/community/greater world.
But here’s something subversive and liberating and true: it’s not your responsibility to make other people feel comfortable – no matter the immediate social implications. It is only your responsibility to be honest.
You don’t want to change them, but are happy to continue to fall in love with whoever they evolve into over time.
Fire can burn your house down, or it can cook you dinner each night and keep you warm in the winter. Your mind is the same way.
Because if you’re worried that losing someone means losing your future, what you’ve really lost is yourself.