“If you don’t want beauty standards to matter, culturally start making something else matter more… for example, what kind of people we are, not what we look like.”
People are going to change. You’re going to change. This isn’t only okay, this is how it should be; you shouldn’t be the same person you were six months ago. If you don’t grow with people, it’s okay to go without them.
I’m always lightly romanticized by the phases of my life, the shifts that occurred as my psyche did — because my psyche did.
How are you going to have kids? I would totally go gay for you. Oh, I always knew, I could tell you were different. I have a friend who is gay!! I never would have guessed! (You look so normal!)
The people who have lost love know that someone else’s love isn’t yours to lose.
I learned that the nonsensical things that happen are often preparations for the unknown unknowns. I learned that being in the moment isn’t just the best way to enjoy your life, it’s the only way to get ready for what’s next. I once read that you have to stop seeking answers and start living in the questions.
I believe that making a life for yourself as an “artist,” is less about chance and more about work ethic, walking the fine line between creating for yourself and creating for consumption and your threshold for rejection and perseverance regardless.
Make a list of things to talk about with your friends that do not involve insulting anybody else, complaining about your life or dwelling on the past.
It is not our duty to love and support and be kind to each other, it is our essential nature.
Knowing what’s wrong without you having to really say it, and knowing how to fix it without you having to ask.