Here’s something else nobody will tell you: you’re not meant to do what you love. You’re meant to do what you’re skilled at. Imagine a doctor with a low IQ but a lot of “passion.” Life isn’t just about how much pleasure you can get from something. What’s more important is what you have to give.
Anxious: You’re the intense girlfriend. You don’t do “casual dating.” You need to know where you stand. Once you fall for someone, you fall hard, and you have a really hard time detaching.
They were obsessed with you and just a handful of other people. Their social interactions were mainly composed of others they were dependent on.
She won’t give up so easily. She doesn’t associate perfection with the ability to be loved, which means she’s also capable of being genuinely intimate.
Anxious — Accept that pain is part of life, and it’s especially part of a life well-lived. You’re going to have to risk being hurt if you want a chance at really being loved.
Be friends with different types of people. Don’t insulate your worldview by only socializing with those who are fundamentally the same as you.
You begin to understand that no relationship is a “failure.” You learned what you had to learn, and then you were set free to find a better fit.
You know that look – the one when someone’s face somehow swells with emotion without really changing expression.
Why do you think the people who hurt you most did what they did?
The advocator is motivated by justice. They only aspire to something when it has a deeper meaning and purpose, particularly in the realm of transforming the self/community/greater world.
