Make more time for people than you do things.
An exhaustive list of (productive) things to think about other than the issue at hand.
Notice how we only feel we are doing “something” when that “something” can be externally measured… by other people?
Children’s meditations, lucid writing, binaural beats, walking meditations.
Take yourself out to dinner.
The most important thing you can spend your time investing in is understanding what your instincts feel like.
Once when I was in therapy in high school, a counselor told me she was very concerned about when I got to middle age, because I would have accomplished the things I was placing all of my peace-of-mind on. And then there would be nothing.
Now we realize the people who most effortlessly “fit in” were only the ones who were most willing to sacrifice themselves. Now we realize that being “cool” wasn’t a desirable thing, not the way we defined it — but we saw no other choice.
Acting without feeling inspired is us saying what we naturally know, feel and think, and this is vulnerability. When we believe that we must be inspired by an idea to create something of it, it is a mechanism to avoid placing ourselves bare into something that other people can judge.
We are so caught up in being the person who cares less, that we become afraid of even caring at all.