Body image is hard, being able to completely and fully say you love yourself is incredible is even harder, sadly.
We spend so much time focusing on self-love and body positivity, there are girls always cheering each other on and I think it’s amazing because being female is hard enough.
The last thing you need in your life is someone whom you love making you more insecure about your body image.
If he doesn’t love your belly, send him packing. If he pokes at your pouch and cracks jokes that make you feel more insecure then kick him out of your life because you don’t need that kind of negativity.
Don’t allow someone to belittle you and try to change you to fit into their picture perfect girl because in all honesty that’s just not possible. No two bodies are the same and you’ll kill yourself over trying to meet an unrealistic expectation that your body will never be.
If he doesn’t love your belly, dump his butt. Let him go because loving yourself is hard enough as it is with constant model pictures in every direction you look.
The person who loves you shouldn’t be pointing out your flaws, he shouldn’t be telling you to hit the gym or that you need to work out harder to lose those five pounds. He shouldn’t be shaming you for eating chocolate at night and making little snide remarks about your weight. He shouldn’t be talking about how you “used to be so skinny.”
You should never date someone who tries to change you or make your self-worth dwindle because there is nothing wrong with you.
If you want to have chocolate after dinner, eat the chocolate. If you don’t feel like hitting the gym, stay on the couch and watch Netflix. Life is all about finding a balance that works for you and making yourself happy. Don’t restrict yourself from things you really want in order to lose those five pounds to make him happy because the only person you should truly make happy is yourself.
As long as you’re happy, he should be happy and if he’s not then he’s not the person for you.
He doesn’t know what it feels like to be a female and how hard that is without even getting naked. He doesn’t know the thoughts that run through your head. He doesn’t know what self-destruction you’re putting yourself through feels like when you’re trying to tell yourself over and over that you’re happy and this is what’s best for you when it actually isn’t.
Don’t date someone who puts you through that.
Don’t date someone who has double standards, who makes you feel shitty about yourself when you skip the gym but he doesn’t even own a gym membership. Don’t date someone who makes your feel ugly and isn’t proud to show you off unless you look a certain way.
Don’t put yourself through that mental abuse and torture.
Date someone who loves your tummy, who kisses you on the belly button and who tells you that you’re sexy no matter what you wear. Date someone who enhances your body image and self-esteem because he’s so in love with you. Date someone who falls asleep on your tummy and someone who buys you ice cream when you’ve had a rough day.
Date someone who supports you and loves you for who you are without trying to change you.
Date someone who loves your tummy and if he doesn’t dump his butt because someone will. Someone will love you for you because there is nothing wrong with you.