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May 12, 2017

Why Love Is The Scariest Thing In The World (And Why It’s Still Worth It)

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Jen Palmer

Love can be ridiculously scary. My whole life I thought loving someone meant playing all of the games- I waited hours to text back, I pretended I was busy when I was waiting, begging for a response, and I refused to share my true feelings because I was scared. It took me years and a few different heartbreaks to realize that I’ve wasted so much time, energy, and emotion on something entirely fake. It’s not until now that I realize so much hurt and disappointment could’ve been avoided had I been true to my heart.

Stop pretending. If you’re in love with someone, tell them. Scream it until your voice goes hoarse, and once that happens, keep screaming it. Find someone who screams back. One of the best feelings is when you realize you don’t care what society thinks. Your heart feels like it’s breaking from literal chains once you give yourself the permission to love someone as deeply as you possibly can.

Stop being insecure. The person that is discomforted by your passion is the person you don’t need. If they love you, they’ll stop the games too. Don’t waste your love on someone who won’t appreciate or reciprocate it. Don’t be afraid to say “I love you” again and again and again. Don’t be afraid to want to call them late at night just to hear their voice. If they share your feelings, they won’t play games. They won’t make you feel like you’re their second, third, or fourth choice.

I can tell you that allowing yourself to love as deeply as you can is scary. There’s so much at stake. But nothing will ever feel more rewarding than the moment you realize giving all of yourself to someone was worth it. I want it to be worth it. We all do. We want it to be worth the hours crying ourselves to sleep and staring at our phones with no notifications and waiting for someone that isn’t going to show. We want to know that our time wasted was actually time well spent because you get to spend the rest of your life with the person that was worth every single second. TC mark