I'm Sorry I Don't Care About Your Baby

Mar. 16, 2012

By Johanna de Silentio info

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This headline is not sarcastic… I’m legitimately sorry.

I want to care about your baby. For your sake and my sake I want to not feel sick to my stomach when I see pictures of your reptilian looking newborn or your gorgeous [something, idk]-month old on Facebook. But I hate it and I’m sorry.

There’s no interesting philosophical or feminist or ideological reason. There’s no defense. I just feel really, deeply uncomfortable when I see people’s babies.

I feel weird because I’ve never been in a relationship that was either a) secure enough to produce a baby or b) interesting enough to want to think about long-term attachment. Whenever people from my high school get married their parents side hug me and tell me “you’ll be next, don’t worry.” When I see a baby I feel guilty and bad that I should have one of my own by now or maybe two or one and a pair of precocious fraternal twins or maybe if not I should have a blog about my fertility problems.

I’m not belittling anyone who has or wants children or trivializing motherhood. If I’m criticizing anyone it’s myself. Nobody wants to be cynical and moreover nobody wants to feel regressive. I want to care about your baby but I don’t. Sorry. TC mark

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  • http://entropicalia.tumblr.com/ Alison

    Please, please tell me why you had to say you are criticizing yourself.

  • Anonymous

    What are you trying to say, again?

  • Abc123

    I don’t care either!

  • Rishtopher

    I don’t care about other people’s babies either. I won’t apologize for that though. 

  • Heather

    This would have been so much better if you didn’t actually feel bad about it.

  • MKP

    I hate people that post videos and photos everyday of their baby. Please for the love of God stop. Your kid looks the same as he/she did 12hrs ago. I don’t care.

  • salt salt n pepa

    I’m with you

  • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

    Well, if you ever decide you do want one…Get in touch with me. 

  • http://twitter.com/xcuzemyfrench xcuzemyfrench

    how about when your friends nag you every time you see them to look at their phone pictures of their niece, nephew… I’m sorry Ill care when its YOUR OWN kid. 
    until then, sorry but i dont care. 

  • Anonymous

    I’m not sorry that I don’t care about anyone’s baby.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=41508118 Caity Sherlock

    i hate babies. i never want them and i hate when I say that out loud, people say, “you’ll love your own” or “you’ll feel differently when you find the man”  THAT IS NOT AN EXPERIMENT I’M WILLING TO BET ON.

  • Guest

    The worst – and I mean absolute WORST – are those people who post pictures of their babies and then caption them IN THE VOICE OF THEIR BABY. “Hi mom! I love my new toys!” or (this is real) “My mom made me  breakfast… messy “beem boom boom” (Peanut Butter)!” 

    Like, seriously, I can’t. I CANNOT.

  • Amanda

    I imagine that parenthood is a lot like a prison sentence. I’d almost rather go to prison…

  • Space mtn

    when i was 6 i was grossed out by babies and would avoid them as much as possible

  • Enjoy your life

    Babies are not for everyone. It is as simple as that. No reason to get anxiety attack because of this. I don’t have any and I am close to 60 now. Life has been great without babies.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=24707641 Colleen Finnell

    its refreshing to read these comments and know im sane for being a 25 year old female who 100% does not want children and finds it hard to care to keep up with those around me having them… 

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