Why It Hurt When You Rejected Me

There’s a line I read somewhere about our insecurites, that the very worst part of the worst breakup is not the break up itself – but that when you press for information, for reasons, you see all those same insecurities and flaws vomited back up in front of you.

All those mood swings, your frittishness with eating, your ludicrous flights of fancy… all those things you thought you were doing SO WELL with controlling for the months or years you were together? Those are the ones that damned that relationship to failure.

That’s the rub. 

(Loved your article, as per always. A little wordy here or there, and I could use a little more specificity, but stuff on TC tends to go for much more universal wordings and descriptions anyhoo. Fun and painful and interesting read.)

So true.

 ”Cry, Kat George Is A Reject, Please Stop Rejecting Me, She’s A Rejector, This Is For All You Rejectors Out There!, This Is So Overly Dramatic”

best.tags.ever.

I think the only point you didn’t hit on is how the break-up reminds you that relationships are ephemeral… all of them… and so you didn’t only break my heart. You also so bluntly reminded me of how we’re all going to die.

I loved this. So much so that I want to ask you out on a date…

Girlfriend… You are like an emo 16 year old in 2000 making sappy away messages on AIM trying to reach out to the person who hurt you, hoping that they’ll read it and know it is about them. Get a grip.

This. 

Thank you for writing this. You put in words everything I’ve been thinking and feeling for the past month since my last relationship suddenly ended.

This is amazing.  Imagine how awful she is going to feel if she rejects you.  No lose situation Adam! You have found what we have all been looking for.  You could string this into marriage if you tell the story about how you met in front of enough of her friends.

I love this– it makes me think “YES this is the understanding of hurt
that I wish I could convey to friends.”  I am amazed at how you are able
to touch on every little feeling, thought, or nuance that is experienced through times of being ‘rejected’ by someone who you connected with at one time.

I wonder if one day, when they are the ones hurt like this, they’ll look back and wonder.

stephenie meyer, is that you?

If you read the article you will see it’s not addressed to anyone in particular, and it’s just more about being rejected generally, by many different people in life.

“It embarrassed me, because however small or large the gesture, I wore my
heart on my sleeve for you, and even wagged it in front of your face
once or twice. It hurt because it made me feel as though I should have
known better, that I shouldn’t have been so rash in my actions.”

That really hit home for me. Loved the article.

haha man this is really terrible

ONE look at the tags would show that Ms. George is aware of how dramatic this article seems and also not asking for your pity. They show that she is writing her feelings, putting them out there–and still acknowledging that it comes off like a “16-year-old’s AIM away message.”

But hey, that doesn’t change the feelings. Cue “Tiny Violin, Waaaaa Waaaaa”

Rejection always hurts…But getting rejected by a good friend is torture

just curious. did you date this guy (same as dirtbag?) after breaking up with a real boyfriend? and confused the two things (db/rbf) on accident?

Anyone who doesn’t like how this is written is still unable to come to terms with the humanity of being rejected after giving everything they have to someone else.

Anyone who doesn’t like how this is written is still unable to come to terms with the humanity of being rejected after giving everything they have to someone else.

all the things I think about late at night (on some nights) but am afraid to express because of the things people might say (see comments below). thanks Kat.

I experienced all these thoughts at once this morning. Being rejected sucks and it’s scary how your article just recounted exactly what I’m just went through.

I think you took me all too literally. I just don’t think I’ve read anything quite so spot on when it comes to that type of rejection and heartbreak. It made me swoon. 

I guess I didn’t really like him, cause it didn’t hurt this much. Just some bruised pride.. :/

I guess I didn’t really like him, cause it didn’t hurt this much. Just some bruised pride.. :/

I will admit, when I first began frequenting this site, you caught my eye- Your words and the way in which you delivered them. It was all about timing, really. I had just gone through a pretty gutting breakup and you eased me in a way in which the usual vices didn’t. You speak to relationships very honestly, wholesomely… I read about the man that you courted overseas. It eased me. I saw myself in you. Then, suddenly, I lost you for awhile. I didn’t understand what you wrote, couldn’t relate, became very aware of your phrasing and context. Frankly, I grew to just want to give you a hug and tell you to write poetry for a bit instead. You began to write in a trendy manner. It was difficult to love. Now, however, with this article, I see you again. So thank you. I feel everything you are feeling in these words, and so, (selfishly and honestly, with a brand new vulnerable awakening) I  thank you for your honesty. Pride is a tricky thing to talk about in such light. I appreciate your willingness, the directness in your voice. I am unapologetic too, and vulnerable to a fault, but I am learning, it’s a pretty fucking beautiful way to live… isn’t it?

I read just the title and laughed

then I read the article and did not laugh and there’s nobody around to hug me now

:(

i got played…and then rejected…i thought it was love.. he said ‘it’s not you, it’s me.’ i punched him for the cliche. we agreed to continue being friends ( i like his mother far too much to not be). i bottled up my feelings real good. like it was fine and he wasn’t killing me on the inside everytime we saw each other and hung out. and then 4 months passed. and then i let it out. on him. not in an angry way. just in a …..look what this is doing to me, i’m unhappy with this situation. i even used the word unsustainable. and then we kissed, and now we;re going to live happily ever after. or something  like that. he still has no real explanation for what happened the first time around. too much too soon?
love your writing

this was wonderful and there was something very raw about it that i latched onto. maybe because this kind of rejection is too familiar to me, and it burns less now after i’ve read your article and acknowledged that millions of other people feel these awful feelings also. 

this makes me sad for you

even though I should be happy for you

explain

Sometimes I come on here after studying for six hours straight and I’m vulnerable as fuck and I read this and although it should make me want to fall apart it doesn’t.

The solace I find in knowing that someone else is going through, went through, what I’m going through is hard to explain. Thank you.

i have a friend who’s pretty much in the exact same situation right now, except their relationship doesn’t seem to be going so strong right now. it’s obvious he’s using her. i hope things work out for you. x

you have this amazing ability to take emotions that are seemingly impossible to explain and manage to explain them, beautifully and vulnerably. thank you and never stop writing

Oh man trolls and haters, can we stop being all shallow here? Seriously? Dont matter if its a general case to rejection in all forms or if its ‘trying to reach out to the person who hurt you, hoping that they’ll read it and know it is about them’, its whatever it means to the person reading and relating to it. Maybe you don’t relate to it, but well someone does, its real in them and if your point is ‘move the fuck on’ well I’m sure you ‘move the fuck on’ in 5minutes of getting played toyed and screwed over. Give people a break, some use this as an outlet. Just because no one wants to get close to you / you dont have a chance to get close to anyone so don’t have a chance to feel like this doesn’t give you any right to hide behind your keyboard and whine all day. Dont like it, move on and get out read something else. So whatre you contributing whats your point? Dont have one? STFU and get lost.

This is amazing. Great piece!!

I believe that there will come a time in the future when you will come across the very person that hurt you the most and feel nothing. Not because they never mattered, but because you they don’t matter anymore. 

I related to every word and as always appreciate your writing. Thank you. 

cry kat george is a reject

AMEN

Kat George is spot-on like a cheetah.

maybe it was just “bad timing”

this is exactly the same as your “why i cant love you” can you switch up the writing style just a little bit? or get over the fact that you don’t/cant get a boyfriend.. sorry if this seems cruel but sometimes the truth hurts.

I am still so in love with the idea of us together… i don’t know if i will ever be able to come out of this. I feel like I should not be living across from you. I don’t know if I can accept a friendship, it has to be all or nothing. Hopefully being away from you will make you miss me, and perhaps you’ll reach out to me. But if you don’t, i wonder if I could bear the pain. Yes, I let my guard down… and let you hurt me.

I cried. My wounds were reopened for a while there.