The Definition of Love

Amazing.

This is beautiful.

Fucking genius. If you find where to get some of that… let me know too, k?

I love this. You're putting my feelings into words.

This is really great. All true.

Sometimes, also, love is not knowing why; and sometimes just not knowing.

Love is doubt. The the strength of our grip bolstered by slick of the ice on which we tread.

This is wonderful.

Thanks, Ryan.

wow. just wow. so beautiful.

Ahhh get me all choked up why don'cha! My favorite: “Love is a back massage, a mindfuck, a hard cock, a pair of perfect breasts, of feeling unashamed about the cellulite on your body. Love is someone giving a shit about you enough to argue.”

Very well written Ryan.

Nice to read this on a beautiful day.

Love is also what leaves you dry heaving on the toilet, constipated, and without any inclination of release of any kind… cathartic nor gastrointestinal.

You dick!

Way to make me cry, in front of my mom.

This was so adorable.

Agreed. So nice to sit outside in the sunshine and read this lovely thing on this lovely today. It's 70 degrees here in Maryland.

i enjoy some of your other work, but i don't think you really captured what love is here.

Wow, now I can finally stop taking quizzes in Cosmo.

“Love is hate. Period. Indifference is the real killer of love and the true antithesis.”

good, agreed, also did you get this from Sally Forth last Sunday comics? I wrote Alice's quote down.

Love is CHOOSING to stay after falling out of love. You get to know the person's flaws & imperfections and accept them because that's who they are and not putting it in a box that's labeled “over it”.

We may be right in our definition of love but I think and feel that it's much much more than that. And to whoever has found THE love, good job!

You people really think that's beautiful? “Love is a hard cock, a pair of perfect breasts”. Is that really even part of what you think love is? I get that the writer is trying too hard to be edgy and deep, but seriously? “In some cases love is divorce.” Explain to me a situation where being loving involves telling someone you promised you would never leave that you are leaving? Get a clue people.

If that's all you got out of the whole piece, you should probably start again. Also, if you really don't understand how love can be divorce, then you've never loved somebody who wasn't right for you.

Excuse me, Matt, but I happen to agree with Ryan. Sometimes love is as simple as a hard cock and a perfect pair of breasts. Sex is beautiful and a time when we are at our most vulnerable, our most intimate with our lover. It's not trying to be edgy or deep, at least that's not how I take it…it's about trying to boil love down to its pure simplicity rather than the overly ornamented portrayal we tend to see in media today. And yes, in some cases love is divorce or an ending of some sort. Sometimes when you love someone you realize that you are not what they need and vice versa and thus together, you do not create the kind of love you are looking for. Divorce is often a result of negative emotions but there are occasions when it is ended mutually and for the benefit of both parties rather than to harm one. And this is from someone who just got dumped by her fiancee who promised to spend the rest of his life with her. Try to be a little more open minded. Just because someone doesn't share your view on love doesn't make either of you wrong or right…it's simply your opinion.

Also, thank you for posting this Ryan. We don't know each other and probably will never meet but it's always nice to see someone shares your views on someone, especially in the case of love which there is not enough of in this world. This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for making me smile! :)

You aren't looking at the whole picture. Either that or you don't get it at all.

I cried too :'(

Absolutely beautiful. This is so raw and truthful it made me cry.

that actually made me cry

Love from your perception sounds like quite a ride, Ryan.

Love and hate come from the same place and too much of either is not a good thing but they are not the same. Hate is a lot cleaner, simpler: it serves a specific need and outlet, by lifting oneself through lowering others' value or by bringing others down to the same level of misery. Love is really, really gross, and often not at all satisfying or rewarding, like, for example: cleaning the shit off your wrinkled lover's ass when they don't even remember who you are anymore.

I agree that you have to accept a person's flaws and imperfections when you're in love, but sometimes if you really love someone it IS best to leave. Sometimes people you love are just not compatible with you and the most loving gesture in that situation is to set yourselves free.

this made me love you

One of my coworkers divorced his wife years ago and they have a better relationship now than when they were married. They love each other, their children, and the life they've cobbled together since the divorce. Sometimes divorce does not mean leaving, it means admitting that something is not working and you love the other person enough to try and make a situation better.

Honest, and no sales pitch. Makes love sound pretty horrible really. I guess it is.

Here is love: ……..Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails….And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

This is my first comment ever to a blog. I had to write to tell you that your piece resonated so much with my perception of love. Beautifully written, gutsy, passionate, vulnerable … just like love. Thanks for writing it.

The Bible? Really? I think I like Ryan's version better.

Definition of hate: the way I feel about Ryan O'Connell.

Only people who have NEVER been in love won't understand this. Only people who have some lukewarm social alliance that masquerades as a loving relationship will scoff at the exposed sinews and pulsing veins of an emotion that brings both terror and peace, security and desolation, ecstasy and suicide. Love is all there is–all there has ever been. Everything else is merely an imitation or an absence of love.

I pray to God that I find it again.

This should have been named “Love: the 20 something perspective”

This is definitely not what love is. My reasoning is that true love will never leave you, even if the person you have feelings for does. It doesn't come from someone else, it comes from within.

haha you are so pathetic

Love is unconditional. It's caring about the health and happiness of another person without expecting anything in return.

Definition of no life internet troll: anonymous user.

miserable bastard.

And someone finally put it in words the right way.

How about reading the various reactions to this piece and realising that love is a pretty abstract concept that not only can differ from person to person but even within the same person as the years unfold.

I loved this mostly I think because it doesn't make me feel crappy about myself. I get tired of being told that love is some beautiful thing and that to have it you have to be completely unselfish, but there isn't a single human being out there who is honestly selfless. Even those that do good things only do it because it makes them feel good or they think it's the “right thing” to do. I'm not perfect, but that doesn't mean I don't or can't fall in love. Love is one of the most messy ridiculous things I can imagine, despite that I'll still keep looking for it.

completely and utterly true

me too.

Well put. I'm in that situation right now and I'm scared about how it will turn out.

That's because no one out there can afford to be selfless.

love is being aware of all the crazy contradictions and not worrying about it…wonderful post, yes love is hate and rage and jealousy as well. I recently had to stop sleeping with someone whom I love deeply because the whole thing had turned into a love triangle worthy of soap opera. I was terribly hurt even though we are still very close, eventually she asked me to write her a nasty mean spiteful letter so that I could release the tension and stress. So I did, and she loved me even more for the fact that I had been brave enough to say terrible things to her and reveal the depths of my passion. We are now closer than before.
Love is also about not being afraid to make demands of your partner, not being afraid to reveal that you are angry or hurt.

love it.

Love has nothing to do with pithy, trite blog posts. Love is mysterious and if you think you know enough about it to feel the need to explain what it is to other people, you probably don't have the first clue about it.

I hate love and have suffered from it for over five years. The person I love is of the same gender, and doesn't know. My life changed completely the day I first met her. I finally understood what all the romantics meant in their poems, what passion and love really felt like.

Unfortunately the most incredible hurt and depression has been a result of this love, it is the worst – and best – thing that has ever happened to me.

Actually, quite often, people write-no matter what the medium-in order to understand love and emotions for themselves. The written word is both the question and the answer; it is a way to linguistically express something purely sensual in order to connect it to others and to a definitive reality. You are right-love is mysterious. Because despite what we can express in words, each person and their feelings are different.This post is neither trite nor pithy, but merely one view of human relations. It is an essential human need to understand and explain, and criticizing someone else for doing so is not only impolite, but also shows ignorance as to your own understanding of human nature.

Your comment does not actually make an argument against this post. Read closer: the author is actually arguing that love comes from others as well as yourself, they are just creative in the way they address it.

Love isn’t always marriage. Marriage is spending $60,000 so everyone can know that someone loves you. — “Wedding” and not “Marriage”.

The difference between 'marriage' and 'wedding' is that the first is the state of being legally joined as husband and wife, while the second is the marriage ceremony.

Although 'marriage' can also mean the official ceremony of being married, the term 'wedding' is normally used for the actual celebration.

UNACCEPTABLE.

I think this post should be titled “A Definition of Love.” Love can really mean multiple, contradictory things. Here it's described as everything except indifference in a romantic relationship, but I also like to think of it as something purer, the rejection of harm, jealousy, and hate in any type of relationship. There are several other opinions, too.

Maybe that's partly true, but I don't think it's even possible to find out if anyone can afford to be selfless.

bullshit. the end.

All wrong, Read Corinthians.

Hey girl, don't waste your life like that. You don't want to give up the feeling, but if you put it all out there you'll have resolution and then either you'll be with her or maybe you'll be able to move on to someone who will show you what passion is for real.

Yeah, that's what I've heard at every wedding I've ever been to. Thanks for the reminder though.

i cant only agree with the first paragraph or so, then as with everyone else here the rest is bull shit,

Godamnit this is the worst excuse for any kind of rational explenation of love , whoever wrote this is unbelievably ignorant and misguided and has the thinking abilty of a retarded cockroach.

How romantic!

i agree with the whole thing, after personal experience like.

This is all wrong. A very petty excuse for love.

This is all wrong. A very petty excuse for love.

Jesus Loves you unconditionally. Unless you don't love him…. Then you will burn in the pits of damnation for all eternity. Corinthians. Bahahahahaha.

This is a nice interpretation of love, but I think this is most likely written by someone who has found a joy in “young love”, or is incredibly young themselves.

I give much credit for the many attempted summations of love. I think that is the most redeeming quality that whoever wrote this defiinitely took as many different personal experiences or feelings and applied them to various situations.

I think this gets criticism for the very simple fact that there are people who have not experienced this, or did at one time and lost it. Having been wronged by love creates a natural defense of it, and thus an accompanying skeetpticism.

I started writing this to bash it and say what utter garbage it is.. but when I thought back on my experiences of love, I realized that it's not all garbage.. some of it is truth.. a naive truth at times, but a truth nonetheless.. :)

also wrong

i would think that someone would like that back love can be a one way street. different people have different views and opinions it all boils down to what you think.

I loved this.

seriously who cares

You get a tax break when you're married, therefor saving you money.

I don't understand why everyone is hating so hard on this. Maybe this was not particularly how your love was, but who are you to say this wasn't the love that belonged to someone else? How can you honestly say you have never been so upset with your partner you didn't want them to touch you, go near you, or even have the audacity to speak to you in a certain tone, if you haven't you're a liar. I believe this article has everything to do with love. Love takes you for all that you are, and all that you are not. Love is loving their cellulite because you want them to know you love EVERYTHING about them, even the things they wish they could change, the things they hate the most. Love has to see the storm of the anger to feel the calm afterwards, it's progression, it's love in the making. I love getting drunk with my partner and taking cabs home because we are best friends. We find comfort in each other, and find love in comfort. If you cannot honestly relate to this article in any sense in whichever form of love you feel, I am sorry for you. This is beautifully written, as hard as love is to write for. That was just my input, agree to disagree if you will.

The issue here is that the author uses the phrase “love is”. I don't think love “is” anything. It's impossible to give a hard definition of an abstract concept.

Also, I think people are hating on this because it's simplistic, rhetorical and dippy. I'd rather read what Erich Fromm has to say on the matter.

people don't like this because it's brutally honest. just as love can be a romantic fairytale, it can also be a tragedy. that doesn't mean its not love though, just a different kind and a different experience. either way, its love and this author does a perfect job of portraying a difficult love.

you obviously dont get it. have fun in the world where the only thing you think you care about is selfish love. look above. thats selfless love. wanting nothing in return, but you love so much it hurts and you dont know what to do. so yeah good luck.

Sorry, this isn't about love.

It's just poorly written fluff of what the writer wants someone else to think thats what they want to read.

Utter rubbish, and the worst writing I have read in a long time.

I have to say I can identify with this. I can't identify with all the haters though. And sometimes, it still feels good just to have them touch you, even without the climax.

I really enjoyed this piece. It wasnt simple, it wasnt pretty words it is what I would call love. A string of random thoughts and energies, good and bad. Well done!

Get over yourself. It wasn't written to be perfect, or graded or judged at all. It was written to be experienced and relatable to the reader. So relate, or don't. It was a wonderful, well rounded piece of work.

POPOSTROUS!

loljk. This is really cute. Bitches just be trippin.

LOVE THIS!!!

I would very much like to see your explanation of love then, since you obviously know that this isn't it. Rational? Are you trying to tell me that love is rational? If anything it's the most irrational concept known to man kind. We all seek it, hoping to find the perfect love to fall in love with but that seldom happens. It's work, it's happiness, it's heartache, growth, selflessness, confusion, compromising, and anything beyond and in between. Everyone experiences love in their own way.

The author of this wasn't trying to get this explanation put into the Webster's dictionary, simply writing what their take on love is. This is the kind of love that most can relate to. If there isn't one thing you can relate to in this, then please share your experiences, instead of bashing the author for not meeting your standards.

This started out great, then got ugly and mean-spirited. The writer is a small, sad, twisted, bitter, and unloved individual. This is not an expose' on what love is. It is a gut-wrenching upchuck of what the author fears.

I dunno why people are saying it's rubbish… If you know love you've been there.. through all the thick and thin.. There's the good.. then there's the bad. This writing rings true.

Well, if you love someone you probably enjoy their penis/vagina/what-have-you and if you don't then you probably are not in romantic love with them and should stop pretending.
And divorce is complicated, sometimes you leave because you know a relationship, no mater how in love you are, is not working and is in fact detrimental.

Also seriously how are boobs and cocks not important if you're banging someone?

Why is it that everyone is saying that this is either right or wrong? Why is there so much argument? This is one person's interpretation of what love is. It is neither right nor wrong. If everyone followed these rules, many would be successful in love and many would fail in love. This idea of what love is may or may not be true for an individual. Personally i disagree with many of the comments made in this. Though that is not to say that i am right and this person is wrong.

To me love is the ability to have an entire conversation with your partner just by the way you touch each other. Its being happy just being with the one you love no matter what your doing. It has nothing to do with sex. Nor does it depend on gender. It does not depend on sex or anything physical. Though this is for me and may or may not be the same for someone else.

The bottom line is, each person needs to come up with their own opinion of what love is, and no matter what anyone tells you, your right. You create love, love can not be defined by someone else.

you're all fucking ridiculous. this is a work of art. there is no right or wrong in poetry and this, my friends, is poetry. it's really well-written.

Please, Love occurs at Christmas, Easter and Valentines day. It is made up by a marketing genius to fool you all into buying things and searching for it. The joke is on anyone silly enough to fall for it. The majority will figure this out after they have settled for Mr or Mrs financially secure or beautiful. We all seek to drag the best looking person back to our cave. Love is a myth that plays us to believe it is anything more.

Go touch yourself.

If you have been through love, you'll know the reality of it. The write was spot on … Although love is the cutest thing in the world, there is also so many ugly parts to it. Love has arguments because when you're in love, you care too much.

you spelled “explanation” wrong. so much for rational.

that was beautiful. nothing more, nothing less.

True dat

I've definately felt each and everyone of those feelings. That is love…
Love is the most happiest thing in the world…yet it could be the worst thing. I always said I hate love…because when you have an argument with someone you love, it hurts more than anything. Or when you are far apart from the person….its heart breaking. LOve is amazing, yet very intimidating. Greatly written

Beautiful.. ah. Thank you Ryan (and the other TC writers), for giving me a place where I can read.. where I can read all your wonderful words. As a student of the English language, I try to immerse myself in it as much as possible.. but I find my schoolbooks and even most literature to be a little lacking in some areas.
Articles like this, about.. Love. Articles about sex, about facebook pictures, ask a gay/straight dude.. It is a new perspective and it is very, very welcome. Thank you again.

NO. love , real love is from God.
You can disagree but God took all the best parts from all of the guys i ever knew and really did make my other half for me. the only difference between us is hes a man and im a girl, otherwise we really are the same person. it took God 53 years to have me go thru HELL before he gave me him, too.and ive known him since he was in 9th grade, and my oldest daughter was in 7th.
and 30 years of a marriage to someone who never ever loved me, just used me for all he could.almost killed me.now hes killing himself minute by minute, he is the MOST TOXIC PERSON EVER. my other half is a classical piano composer the likes of Chopin, and he saved my life. please listen.
http://www.eddiecovarrubias.com
money? beautiful? the one i was married to has lots of money and NO LOVE INSIDE AT ALL.he will die the opposite of Scrooge, all money and no people.
my other half, all love and no money yay!
thats the way it should be.

This article is about the kind of love you have over and over before you find a love that lasts. This is naive love, destructive love, love with an expiration date. And don't tell me I'm saying that because I've never felt it. Sure I have…I loved like that once. It was wonderful and terrible and then it was over, and I nearly killed myself. Then I grew up, found someone else who had grown up, and found out what lifelong love is.

This was well written. I'm also with the person that said this should be entitled “A definition of love” because as you have all already said, this is one, single definition of love. I agree with most of it, but gets to be kinda angry in the end. It may touch on jealousy, but “my” definition of love doesn't shoot off into “Who the FUCK are you talking to?' That sounds kinda selfish to me. Not to mention the part that has “love is…a mindfuck”? It reminds me of dating in high school.

So in fewer words, I agree that this is a younger, more naive definition of love. Not to say this isn't spot on in regards to that, but once you find someone you want to share your life forever,

Love is this poem, but without the angst.

Although granted, it probably reads better with the angst.

Love is a myth designed to separate fools from their money, And keep them in line. One more thing to be afraid of.
She travels fastest who travels alone.

Loved this, favorite lines:

“Love is someone giving a shit about you enough to argue. Love is not passive. Love is “Don’t fucking touch me right now.” Love is “Who the FUCK were you talking to?” Love is sometimes hating yourself for a second. Love is hate.”

Very cute but, as someone has already mentioned, we all have our own interpretation of love. My interpretation of “true love” is much different. What is described above is what I went through several times when I was young, imature and needed someone to love me. I would like to see the author re-visit this subject in about 10 years or so.

I agree to parts of it. Love does bring all of your sides out…but I wouldn't call that love, love over time transforms to its counter parts–respect, honesty, trust, and many others. And I definitely agree, that love is our own definition. So in response to your wonderful thoughts, here's a quote.

Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Louis de Bernières

Get a job

I think you've been watching too many soppy movies :3

Craptacular.

this s poetry. but poetry can be cut down.
maybe “Love is Hard” just aint enoght.

love is pain. and hurt. also it is worry and sadness, then it is happy im over it. love is too much.

This is not what love is, you may think it is but what it really is, is just feelings, love is jesus christ.

Yeah, love is all about loving zombies! Woohoo!

Because NO ONE can tell you what love is. Each of us here is sharing their experience. Mine is that love is a Hallmark card myth designed to make money.
I'm not going to blow sunshine up any one's butt who presumes to say what love is to me! Deal with it or don't.

pussy

Heh heh That'll teach her for challenging the Atheists!

this is the most retarded thing i've ever read

Too many people on here are posting about God…didn't anyone ever tell you that religious views make for a terrible argument? Love is a decision made by both parties. The end.

This sounds more like infatuation, not real long living love.

Maybe getting there faster isn't worth the loneliness.

I would rather be alone for all the right reasons than be bound to a ball and chain for all the wrong reasons.

I will strive for freedom and respect, Before I settle for security…

Thaaaats Right, If you don't agree with the message, Then pick apart the spelling, punctuation, And grammar. I don't agree with ADEMSIBIC that this writing reflects the “thinking ability of a retarded cockroach.”, But how far does critical thinking take one when dealing something as subjective as Luuuuuuvvvvv?

The least you could do is ID yourself?

Correct. Love is too subjective to slap the sacred “The” on. “A Definition Of Love” Would have at least FELT more honest.

I love your writing with passion and honesty. You have inspired me today fine sir.

Love is not depending on a deity for your own self worth.

*Preposterous, idiot.

no, read Leviticus. :P
P.S. don't wear cotton-polyester shirts or you will BURN IN HELL IN ETERNAL SUFFERING

lol, go cry emo boy

I read this and loved it. Now I know that the person I thought I loved, I actually love them.

Just. Damned. Deep.

love comes from the heart.  hate comes from the mind. 

I respectfully disagree.  This is not love.  It sounds like insecurity to me.  This reads like someone who is unsure of themselves and needs somebody else to reassure them and make them feel good.  Love is never jealous.  Control is the opposite of love.  Love is letting go of all these ideas of what love is, and just being in your heart and outside of your mind.  My suggestion is to go on a journey where you leave these ideas of love behind and that's where you will find it again.  Otherwise when you meet people you will be too in your head.  You'll be dating the idea in your head instead of experiencing the other person – and it's that experience and connection that you have to someone else that is the genesis of love.

my immediate reaction is that I love it!

because I like the way you write, I like the honesty behind it. Love is not of rainbows and butterflies and such – atleast not now.  It's as real as reality gets. “Love is wanting your partner to cum” – plain. simple. fact.

but I am apprehensive to agree to everything you say
because often (when looking around) we've come to believe that “Love is unattractive. It can expose our worst traits: Jealousy, irrational fears, heated anger” and this belief has made (I'd go as far to say) the majority of people stay in relationships that hurt them. Like in “eat, pray, love” in the movie, at some point he says “lets just admit that we're in a fucked up relationship and if we accept it then we can be together forever…rather to be miserable together than apart” and it feels like love, that you'd be able to sacrifice your own happiness just to be near, but we've got to ask if that is LOVE in it's truest sense. Yes, I might be too ideal, and after being there and 'loving' wrong people I've come to believe that love is in it's essence, not those things. And you have touched on this saying that it's the bad kind of love. I'll go as far to say that that's not love at all and if we allow ourselves to believe that, then it keeps us there in that relationship for longer.

I say this because I've found it; and even as I type this, I know how this sounds – it sounds crazy! But risking that, I'd like to say that I am loving and being loved in the truest form to my knowledge. There is no jealousy, no compromise, no unnecessary fighting, no harsh name calling, no manipulating; and because I've had this for the last two years without having to work at it, by just being together I can say from the heart that true Love is never hurtful or damaging in any way.

that quote is amazing.

and you have said exactly what I tried to say in my rambling comment.
Thank you

THIS IS NOT LOVE.
Stay away from me, all of you insecure dependent lost souls who think that this is.
You're all dead inside until you wake the hell up.

This should be called:
“Definition of limerence”
“Definition of insecurity”
or:
“Why the American Divorce rate is so high”

=D> This should become a mantra at all weddings.

I agree with this.  I know it sounds insecure, but that’s what love is and anyone that says otherwise is just fooling themselves.  you mean to say that you never worry if that one you gave your heart to is caring for it properly.  you never get bothered when you see their eyes roam?  you never feel lost and alone when they’re not there?

you people who are criticizing this are reading too deeply, or not deeply enough.  the person isn’t saying “love is horrible” or “love is control”  they’re saying that love is that which you find in your heart.  All the bad things, all the good things.  All those parts of you you admire and hate.  It doesn’t matter if this is love for a significant other or love for a family member.  love is that clinging to someone you don’t want to lose.  it’s being afraid when you fear you’ll never be near them again.  it’s being angry that they can see the parts of you you hate, and overjoyed when they can see the parts of you that are beautiful that you couldn’t see for yourself.

all those things you hear about “love isn’t jealous”  ”love is perfect”  ”love is neverending”  ”love won’t hurt you”, it’s all false.  this is truly a definition of love.  not marriage.  not happily ever after. not constant agreement to the end of time.  

You want to know an example of love:  An elderly couple having dinner.  The man argues that there isn’t enough salt.  The wife replies that the doctor said salt is bad for him.  He calls her a nag.  She calls him an idiot.  They spend the next half hour arguing about it until they finally forget what they were fighting about.  She reminds him to put away his teeth before bed and he tells her that he was going to do it anyway.  They climb into bed with each other, and as they drift to sleep, they hold each other the way they have for the last 60 or so years.

Love is going to be disagreement.  It’s going to be anger.  But more than anything, it’s going to be love in any way you can define it.  So don’t criticize one heart’s opinion of it.  You can never be sure that it isn’t your own.

This is amazing and beautiful and all of you that don’t like it can suck it cus Ryan’s writing is amazing.

I just stumbled upon this and I’m so glad I did. What you’ve written is truly remarkable. Thanks so much!

This is what one might call “young love” seems you cannot comprehend the strong feelings you once had for another…I bet you wrote this after having one high school relationship that was INTENSE then ended badly….you will find true love but you do need to find someone that will help unveil YOU and make your insecurities diminish…makes you feel so SURE of it all that jealousy doesn’t even cross your mind. That is love…I enjoyed your raw emotion and honest tone. Don’t ever be afraid to share what is on your mind

right…

#1. I loved it! This was greatly written. I appreciated it.
#2. What this persons interpretation of love is might be different from yours, so don’t say that  it isn’t. Love is different, feels and means different to everyone. I don’t really appreciate the negative comments. You talk of it being insecurity, and maybe it is. But jealousy without trust is insecurity.
Love is love no matter what.