Is There Really Such A Thing As Friends With Benefits?
People don’t seem to understand the concept of friends with benefits. People having sex for pleasure without wanting a deeper connection is blowing people’s minds. Hollywood definitely can’t handle it. They’ve made two films in one year with the exact same premise. No Strings Attached and Friends With Benefits are both rom-coms that ask the same shocking question: OMG, can people have sex with each other without wanting to get into a relationship? The answer is so simple; it’s terrifying that it’s taken three hours of film and millions of dollar to answer it.
The answer is yes, of course they can. But it truly varies from person to person. Chances are you have a friend in your life who you wouldn’t mind sleeping with. They’re cute, you’ll be drunk, whatever, it feels right! When faced with the prospect of dating them, however, you’re completely turned off. You just don’t have that dating chemistry and the thought has never even crossed your mind. You just don’t think of them in that way. This is because sex chemistry is different than dating chemistry. It’s a lot easier to take your clothes off for someone than snuggle with them in bed while ordering delivery and watching Bravo.
It also depends on how strong the friendship is. Obviously having sex with your BFF could be…bad. You already have such as strong emotional connection that throwing sex in the mix wouldn’t make it much different than an actual relationship. However, hooking up with a good friend or an acquaintance shouldn’t be that big of a deal. I’ve hooked up with two of my good friends and it hasn’t been an issue at all. I wasn’t sitting there afterwards wondering if I had feelings for them or worrying if things had changed. Just as I suspected it would be, it was fine. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I wouldn’t have put my good friend’s penis in my mouth if I thought I would want to cuddle afterwards and maybe go on a date.
For some reason, the idea of having sex with someone just to get off is revolutionary. I mean, you must want more, right? How could you not? Um, because you don’t? Not everyone we sleep with is BF/GF material and that’s okay. If we don’t develop feelings for someone, it doesn’t make us a slut or a Samantha; it makes us human. I would love to see a movie get made where two good friends bone every once in awhile and nothing ever happens as a result of it. The friendship goes on, life goes on. They just occasionally find themselves in each other’s sex neighborhood. Wait, just kidding. Don’t make that movie. It sounds really boring.
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2. You’re happy all the time.
People with wedding boards annoy me.
Everything and everyone becomes so much more serious each year after graduating. And getting together with friends keeps getting harder.
I wanted, if nothing else, to see this phenomenon firsthand in an attempt to understand it from perspective removed from judgment.